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Schoolgirl Kuniko is kidnapped by a middle-aged man Iwazono when she is jogging. He tells her that he had a failed marriage which leaves him a deep and everlasting scar in his mind. He kidnaps her in search of a perfect marriage and intends to lock her in the room and ‘educate’ her to perform perfect sex where body and soul are united.

Perfect Education: 40 Days of Love

A young girl, who lost her father at her early age, is kidnapped by a school teacher. He strips, binds and attempts to rape her. For the next few days she tries to escape but in vain. Later, she becomes used to the life with him. Even when she has a chance to run, she chooses to stay. Slowly, their relationship becomes a creepy half-paternal, half-romantic liaison.

Perfect Education 3

A lonely young Japanese student, Ai Narushima (Kana Ito) goes on a field trip with her school. At night she decides to take a taxi into the city. The Chinese taxi driver, Bo Tony Ho, is also a lonely soul and on a whim, decides to kidnap the young student. He takes her to the countryside and confines her in a room for days. The taxi driver doesn’t abuse the student, but at night attempts to cuddle next to her. Eventually the lonely young Japanese student realizes he is as lonely as she is.

Perfect Education 4: Secret Basement

A shy, nerdy man, Takeru finds a schoolgirl hooker Lily is unconscious in a Tokyo park, so he decides to bring her home and lock her up in a secret basement. Although Lily is afraid of him, in fact, Takeru didn’t do anything to hurt her. After Lily begins to uncover a shocking episode

Perfect Education 6

Fumiya owes 5 million yen to a female load shark for a gambling debt, while having affair an with Mrs. Hosoi who offers him 5 million to murder her husband. Fumiya has no choice but to kill Mr. Hosoi. Unfortunately he’s see by a neighbor. In the escape, he meets a girl named Akiko. He hides in her house. Later on, Fumiya and Akiko fall in love and have sex. After that, he finds that the house owner Shin kidnapped Akiko whem she was a little girl and has kept her in the house for over a decade. Fumiya is determined to take her away from Shin’s brutal confinement. A battle of wills between jailer, prisoner and accidental savior begins….

Perfect Education 5: Amazing Story

Because of the desolate landscape, Kobayashi chose snow-covered Hokkaido (the most northern island of Japan) as the setting for Amazing Story, a light-erotic drama about a lonely man, Kenji, who kidnaps the woman of his dreams. The woman is Harumi, a hairdresser in the deserted town where Kenji has just arrived. It’s never really busy in her business. Harumi’s husband is a gambling addict and spends all Harumi’s money. Maybe that’s why Harumi doesn’t try very hard to escape when Kenji kidnaps her. His concern about her and his boundless worship probably help, too. Something strange and beautiful blossoms between the kidnapper and his victim, but can this be the basis of a long and happy encounter?

Perfect Education: A Maid for You

The seventh film of “The Perfect Education” series tells the tale of a man and a girl who pursue love to the point of madness. With erotic dances and love scenes shot in 3D, the film dpicts a “pure love” story tied with sexual desires. “Welcome home, Master!” Kabashima is a regular at the maid cafe. He is head over heels in love with Ichigo, a maid who works there. On her birthday, he is waiting for her by the back door, she exits finally…several hours later, she awakes only to find herself surrounded by thin, plywood walls, her feel, hand, and mouth bound and gagged with packing tape. Amid the darkness, Kabashima quietly opens his mouth, “this is our house. Let’s live intimately together.”

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In Okinawa, a down-and-out middle-aged yakuza underling named Shidara kidnaps and confines a high school girl named Yui, the daughter of a fellow yakuza’s mistress.

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Screenplay, Kaneto Shindo, based on the novel "Jyoshikoukousei yukai shi-iku jiken" by Michiko Matsuda. Camera (color), Yasushi Saskibara; editor, Yoshiyuki Okuhara. Reviewed at World Film Festival, Montreal (World Cinema), Aug. 28, 1999. Original title: Kanzen naru shi-iku. Running time: 99 MIN.

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Screenplay, Kaneto Shindo, based on the novel “Jyoshikoukousei yukai shi-iku jiken” by Michiko Matsuda. Camera (color), Yasushi Saskibara; editor, Yoshiyuki Okuhara. Reviewed at World Film Festival, Montreal (World Cinema), Aug. 28, 1999. Original title: Kanzen naru shi-iku. Running time: 99 MIN.

With: Naoto Takenaka, Hijiri Kojima, Eriko Watanabe, Kazuki Kitamura, Asami Sawaki, Shigeru Izumiya, Shinya Tsukamoto, Katsu Nagashima, Mitsuko Ishii.

The familiar formula of a comely young girl being “trained” as a love slave by her kidnapper gets pedestrian treatment in “The Perfect Education,” a bland Nipponese item that eschews suspense and character depth in favor of mild sexploitation. Tedious item’s offshore chances are further dimmed by its unpalatable (and unconvincing) insistence on the heroine’s willingness, after an all-too-brief initial spurt of resistance.

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Twenty-year-old Kuniko (Hijiri Kojima) is out jogging when 43-year-old Iwazono (Naoto Takenaka), a stationery-supply deliveryman, drugs and abducts her. Waking up in his modest flat, she at first scorns his desire to create a “perfect union of heart and body” with her. But in no time she’s passing up escape opportunities, enjoying a mutual hot-spring trip and surrendering her virginity with chirpy schoolgirl enthusiasm. Broadly comic bits from fellow apartment-building dwellers and several late-arriving sex scenes pad rote progress before an inconsequential ending. Seventy-year-old vet TV helmer Ben Wada imparts no notable atmosphere, style or idiosyncrasy to this puerile fantasy, leaving it little appeal even as voyeuristic titillation. Perfs are one-dimensional, tech package routine.

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Is It Even Possible to Be a "Perfect Mom"?

Parents, especially moms, feel pressure to be "perfect." here's why they shouldn't..

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One mother in my parenting group recently said, “I am in a never-ending battle with being too hard on myself.”

Why do so many modern parents, and moms in particular, feel the need to be perfect as parents? Why do we put that much pressure on ourselves?

Just a few weeks ago, a mom was telling me how guilty she felt for getting more babysitting help. This was not because she wanted more time for herself—it was because she needed to work more and thus needed more coverage at home. But she still wondered, “Is it OK?” She was worried that her children would miss her too much and that these feelings would damage them in some way.

At some point in recent history, many mothers started to feel like they had to be perfect in order to bring up decent children.

Moms started to feel like they had to make all their baby’s food, had to play on the floor with their babies and children multiple times a day, and had to be really present in the moment with their children all the time. They felt like they had to read to their babies every day starting at birth and feed their children healthy food at all times—organic if possible, farm fresh whenever available, often gluten-free, and no sugar, ever. And, as their children got older they felt like they had to provide interesting projects, team sports, music lessons, and swim lessons, as well as some kind of religious education and—well, you get the point.

But what if our children get bored anyway? Or eat some cookies? Or pizza? Or heaven forbid, french fries on the couch? Oftentimes, parents feel guilty, as if we've "failed."

It’s too much.

In 1953 the British pediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott coined the term, “the good enough mother.” He meant that mothers do not have to be perfect to raise their children well. They just have to be good enough.

Winnicott took care of thousands of babies during his career and what he observed is this: It does not benefit babies or children if their mothers are perfect—if their mothers are always there and if they always fulfill every need, this is actually not optimal for the child’s development.

Newborns, of course, require immediate care and feeding. But as the infant gets older, they can tolerate a little delay of gratification; they can wait a few minutes for a feeding. And as they turn into toddlers and then children, Winnicott observed that it was actually helpful to them to have their mothers fail them in small ways at times. This built up their frustration tolerance and their ability to delay gratification. It prepared them for the inevitable disappointments they would experience in the real world.

The real world is not perfect. Life is not perfect. Our children need to be prepared for a life that includes some disappointment—and for relationships with other people that involve some ups and downs. Friends, and eventually partners, are not always available; they are not always kind. Children need to be prepared to negotiate these inevitabilities.

So, mothers—stop putting so much pressure on yourselves! If you say you will do something for your child and then you cannot, if you promise something for dessert and then you find you’re all out, if you say you’ll be there in a minute and it takes you 10, if you can’t find the favorite shirt or if you haven't washed your child's sports uniform, your child will survive.

These experiences of small failures on your part and small disappointments for your child are opportunities. They are opportunities to learn how to tolerate disappointment. And they are also opportunities for repair. You apologize to your child and your child learns that you are not perfect but that you still love him or her.

You do not need to be perfect, moms. Your child does not need you to be perfect. In fact, putting this much pressure on yourself just isn’t helpful. It is likely to make you less happy as a mom, less playful, and less able to cope with the multitude of pressures that come up in your life.

So, take a few minutes to take this in. Give yourself a break psychologically. And face it: There will be days when you feel less than perfect as a mom. And that's OK.

Corinne Masur, Psy.D., is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst in private practice in Chester Springs, Pennsylvania.

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All About Me Handout Packet - First Day of School

Subject: Personal, social and health education

Age range: 8 - 11

Resource type: Worksheet/Activity

Last updated

18 August 2024

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**The All About Me Packet **is the perfect resource for the first day of school, designed to help students introduce themselves and build a sense of community in the classroom. This engaging packet includes a variety of fun and creative activities that allow students to share information about their interests, favorite things, and personal experiences. With sections for drawing self-portraits, writing about their families, and listing their hobbies, this packet helps teachers get to know their students better while fostering a welcoming and inclusive environment. It’s an ideal tool for breaking the ice and making the first day of school a positive and memorable experience for everyone.

**This First Day of School All About Me Packet **is a valuable addition to any elementary classroom, offering a blend of self-expression and essential writing practice. Teachers can use this packet to encourage students to reflect on their identities and share their unique stories, promoting social-emotional learning and peer connections. The activities are easy to complete, making them perfect for young learners, and they can be displayed around the classroom to create a colorful and personalized space. Whether used as a morning activity or part of a getting-to-know-you session, this packet is a must-have for starting the school year on the right foot.

THIS IS A PRINTABLE DOWNLOAD. ONCE PURCHASED YOU CAN MAKE AS MANY COPIES YOU WANT FOR YOUR CLASS OR HOMESCHOOL.

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