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How to Write The Perfect Groom’s Speech (With Examples)

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How to Write a Grooms Speech

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No idea where to start when it comes to making a speech on your big day? We’ve compiled all the best tips and inspiration to help you write and deliver the best groom’s speech ever.

The groom’s speech is always a highlight at a wedding. It’s a chance for guests to hear all the romantic and heartfelt sentiments that you, as a newlywed, will be experiencing.

It’s also a feel-good part of the day where you get to acknowledge all your guests and thank individuals who have helped you bring this special day together. Everyone in the ‘audience’ will be friends and family, so put any public speaking nerves aside, as everyone will be willing you on to do your best and if you stumble over your words or well up when you’re talking about your new wife or husband – well, they’ll just love you even more!

We’ve rounded up 40 of the best groom’s speech ideas, with inspiration for funny, emotional, and unusual speeches, plus examples from famous grooms, to help you write your own Oscar-worthy speech.

What should the groom say in his speech?

Good news! The groom’s speech is one of the easiest speeches to write and deliver as it is essentially just one big thank you.

A groom’s speech should focus on thanking everyone who has helped make the wedding day special including the mother and father of the bride (or equivalent), the guests, his own parents, the best man, the bridesmaids, ushers, and anyone else who has contributed to the wedding.

The other main focus of the groom’s speech is to lavish praise and compliments on his new wife (or groom) and to tell them how happy he is to be married. Finally, the groom should raise a toast to his new wife or husband.

How long should a groom’s speech be?

Any speech at a wedding, including the groom’s speech, should be no longer than ten minutes. When written down this is approximately 1500 words, but make sure to time yourself before the big day in case you’re a particularly slow or fast speaker.

Ten minutes is the ideal length to get across everything you need to say, but not so long that your guests get bored and start to fidget. If you’re not a confident speaker you can always just say a few lines lasting a couple of minutes.

Less is definitely more when it comes to speeches. That said, if it’s too short you could sound flippant! Anywhere between five and ten minutes and you’re in safe territory.

1. Don’t be too formal

Unless you’re known for your love of a bit of pomp and circumstance then you don’t suddenly have to become the master of all things etiquette and stuffy speech-making just because it’s your wedding day. Your guests will want to hear you speak in your usual way, and as long as you cover the expected formalities like thanking everyone for coming, both sets of parents, the bridal party, and anyone who went above and beyond to help you with something like making a cake, then you don’t have to worry about anything else.

2. Focus on the start

If you can get guests smiling from the very beginning of the speech, then both you and your guests will feel relaxed and enjoy the rest of it. Have a think about something humorous that specifically relates to your guests or wedding situation rather than an obvious/ heard-100-times-before gag. Perhaps you’re known for your non-stop chatter, so you could open with “I know you’re all thinking you should take a loo break before I start talking, but I promise I’ll keep this as short (as I can!)…”

3. Don’t forget the main purpose of the speech

A romantic and heartfelt ode to the person you’ve just married should be the main focus of this speech. Try to avoid just saying empty words that anyone could say like “she/he is wonderful, beautiful, kind” etc. Think of specific things that your other half has done that makes you proud/ really love them/ that makes them unique. Anecdotes and stories that highlight a personal trait are the best way to do this.

4. Be romantic, not cheesy

Try not to fall into the trap of sounding like a compilation of all the lines you might find inside a cheesy Valentine’s Day card. Instead of “I’m so lucky to have found you” think about “My parents always told me nothing good would come of always being late, but I’m so glad to say I proved them wrong. I missed my train (as usual) that fateful day and the best thing ever came out of it… you.” Or a simple list of all the things that you particularly love about your partner, from the way they constantly fiddle with their hair to the way they talk to your dog like it’s a human.

5. Don’t give out gifts

This isn’t prize-giving at school and giving out weddinggifts to bridesmaids and ushers etc. will just take up valuable partying time. Give your bridal party their gifts in the morning when you’re all getting ready as it’ll be more personal in private.

6. Think about timing

A speech around the 7 – 10 minutes mark is considered the perfect amount of time for a groom’s speech (written down that’s about 1200 – 1400 words). Any less and you’ll sound a bit flippant. Any more and guests will start getting bored.

7. Don’t go into massive amounts of detail

We all know someone that tells a story as intricate and descriptive as a Tolstoy novel and how we automatically glaze over as soon as they start speaking. Don’t be that person. Your guests don’t want War and Peace – they want a nice easy to listen to a speech that doesn’t mentally challenge them, especially once they’re a few drinks down.

8. Find the perfect quote

If you’re not a wordsmith, let someone else more qualified sum up your feelings for you. There are plenty of amazing quotes from authors and famous orators out there and one or two of them may be exactly what you need to succinctly put all your feelings about the day and your partner into one neat sentence. Just make sure to acknowledge the original author!

9. Give your partner a promise

A lovely way to be funny and also heartfelt at the same time is to make a promise or two to your partner in front of your guests. Don’t just repeat your vows here, promise something that is unique to her/him. Perhaps she’s an avid rock climber and you’re more of a couch potato? Promise you’ll learn to love her crazy hobby. Maybe you’re not exactly Heston Blumenthal in the kitchen? Promise you’ll learn to cook your partner more than beans on burnt toast. Perhaps she/he is the world’s greatest Swiftie. Promise you’ll learn the lyrics to all their favourite Taylor Swift songs… you get the idea.

10. Prepare the delivery

The biggest mistake you can make is to write a great speech on paper and then not read it out loud before the big day. You need to practice talking slowly and confidently and leaving little pauses after funny bits (for any of the slower guests to get it!). Also, some written sentences don’t sound great when spoken, so reading out loud will help you to iron out any clunky syntax. Plus, you’ll want to know the speech almost by heart so that you don’t have your head in a piece of paper reading word-for-word on the day. Eye contact with your guests is one of the most important parts of delivering a successful speech.

You don’t have to be the next Michael McIntyre, but giving your guests a giggle and making them smile is the quickest way to make both them and you feel at ease with the speech.

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking you have to pepper your speech with gags and silly one-liners to make it funny. Instead, just focus on things that are unique to you as a couple or for the audience (perhaps the region you’re from for example) and have a bit of fun at your/ their expense. Be careful not to reference something that only a few members of the audience will understand as that will very quickly alienate your other guests.

Here are ten funny speech ideas to take inspiration from:

Focus on your differences

Comparing your differences can be an easy way to make the guests smile. Are you obsessively tidy and your new partner a bit of a slob perhaps? Can you cook like a pro while they can’t even heat soup without burning the place down? Whatever your differences, exaggerate them and make a joke out of them to get guests giggling.

Tell the crowd something they don’t know

Do you know some funny things about your bride/groom’s past that others in the audience might not? Now’s a good time to reveal that she/he did some hilarious hobbies or geeky things as a child. Perhaps they have a funny secret crush or can do a really odd trick.

Exaggerate your weaknesses

Putting yourself down and acknowledging something everyone knows about you can be a good way to make guests smile. E.g. “Would you believe it? The bride/ groom has finally given up holding out for Ryan Gosling and decided a bald, beer-swilling Insurance Broker from Newcastle is a better option instead.”

Here’s a good example of a funny, self-deprecating groom’s speech:

Make a joke about the wedding itself

“Before I begin, please can we ensure that all the aisles and fire exits are kept clear throughout the reception. There’s a medical team waiting outside the building and I’d like them to have a clear run when my in-laws are presented with the final bill.”

“I’d like to thank Mastercard and Visa, without whom this would never have been possible. My wife and I will be forever in their debt.”

Mother-in-law jokes

These always go down well if you actually get on with her! Reference something unique to your mother in law like her shopping obsession or how long she takes to get ready perhaps. Or keep it classic with: “I’ve been told that this is usually one of the only times in a man’s life when he can be around his wife/husband and mother-in-law and not be interrupted – so hang in there, I’m going to take full advantage.”

“In [in-law’s names], I have found the perfect in-laws. I always cringe when I hear jokes about difficult mothers-in-law because my own experience has been far from that stereotype. [Turn to in-laws and whisper audibly] Did I read that right? Please don’t hurt me…”

Tell a story

If your first date, engagement or the time you asked the in-laws if you could marry their daughter/ son has a funny element to it, go ahead and tell the story. Just remember not to kill the humour with too many details.

Talk about your partner’s quirks

Does your wife/ husband have any weird habits? Divulge a few to the guests but make it romantic by saying how much you love her/him even though they… still get drunk after one glass of wine/ still go to bed with a teddy bear at the age of 33/ always get the words to songs wrong/ always have to be the last person on the dance floor even when the lights come up…

Make the thank yous funny

Instead of a boring list of thank yous, try and inject a bit of fun. For example: “I’d like to thank my mother in law for passing on such wonderful traits to her daughter; her kindness, her humour, though unfortunately, an unwavering support for Arsenal has also slipped down the genetic line.”

Trip the guests up

Everyone expects the first line of the groom’s speech to mention his new wife/ husband. Momentarily confuse them with a sentence like this: “My ex-girlfriend/ boyfriend and I would like to thank you all for coming today” – and then pause while they work it out and laugh.

Use props or videos

If there’s a funny prop or a video that you can show during the speech go for it, plus holding something or giving yourself a break in video form can help stop the nerves.

Leave guests guessing

It’s fine to reference the stag do , but don’t tell a long and boring story about something that happened while you were on it. That’ll only be funny to the stags. It’s best to mention something and leave the end of the story untold as a cliff-hanger so that guests can fill in the blanks with all manner of funny thoughts.

As a groom, you have free reign to get emotional and if you’re not normally an emotional person it will really surprise and delight guests as they will realise just how much the day and marrying your loved one means to you.

You don’t want to get too over the top though and make your guests feel uncomfortable. Keep the really mushy stuff for your bride or groom on your honeymoon and instead focus on the sort of emotional sentiments that will make guests smile.

Here are some ideas for how to make your groom’s speech just the right amount of emotional:

Look guests in the eye

The quickest way to get guests to buy into what you’re saying and to feel the raw emotion of your words is by looking them in the eyes as you deliver each sentence. If you’ve had a difficult time in the run-up to the wedding and are really grateful for the support they’ve all shown, say so while looking sincerely at the guests you really want to show your gratitude to.

Put your heart into the thank yous

If you don’t want to make the thank yous funny or witty, how about making them emotional by not just thanking the person for what they did, but by explaining how much it meant to you.

Mention absent friends

If a member of your family or a friend isn’t at your wedding and is greatly missed then make sure to raise a toast to their memory. You don’t want to be morbid, but a few words about how much the person/ people meant to you both and how much you miss them, followed by inviting all guests to raise a toast to them is a lovely emotional gesture.

Let yourself feel the emotion

If you feel yourself welling up don’t stop the emotion – guests won’t mind if your voice breaks a bit or if you have to take a deep breath. In fact, it just shows how much the words actually mean to you.

Be creative when it comes to describing your partner

If you want to inject emotion into your speech, don’t just say sentences that could describe any bride/ groom. Think specifically about your partner and be poetic when you talk about them and it will be much more sincere than just saying: “My new wide is beautiful” or “My husband is kind”. Here’s a lovely example from a groom’s speech about how to reference your new spouse:

Want to make sure your speech is unforgettable? Make it unusual and unique with some of these stand-out suggestions…

Rap the speech

Got a hidden talent for rapping (or if you don’t it can still be hilarious), then why not attempt to rap the speech instead. You could do part of it normally, before breaking out into a fun rap perhaps.

Sing the speech

Got a good set of pipes on you? How about singing your speech instead? Choose a famous song and then write personalised lyrics to fit. You can make it funny or heartfelt – whatever suits your personality best. Having the words on PowerPoint beside you can help in case some guests miss the words.

Write your speech on blackboards around the room

If the idea of public speaking really is too much for you and threatens to ruin your whole wedding day, why not write it up on blackboards that can be displayed around the venue for guests to read instead. You could even pre-record a video of you reading the speech too. Guests who know and love you will appreciate the effort and know how stressful making a speech in person would be for you.

Speak in a different language

Are you marrying someone who is originally from another country and has another language that you don’t speak? Impress both your new wife or husband and especially their family members who make not speak your language by learning some lines in secret in their language. Starting the speech in English for example before changing seamlessly into French will wow your audience and be very emotional for your new partner.

Get other people to do it for you

Track down important guests who can’t make it to the wedding or some famous people if you can and ask them to say something special that you can record and play as part of the speech.

Borrow the words

If you don’t want to make a traditional groom’s speech, how about performing a poem or reading out the lyrics to a song that means a lot to you as a couple (just don’t make it as awkward as Pam and Mick’s rendition in Gavin & Stacey!)

Write a story

Why not make your groom’s speech sound like the start of a novel or children’s story in a ‘once upon a time’ format, but insert yourself and your new spouse as the main characters. After all, your wedding is part of your love story and you can end your speech with a toast to your happily ever after.

Get your guests involved

Don’t like the idea of all eyes being on you? Surprise your wife/ husband by prepping guests beforehand to each say a sentence. Or you can encourage audience participation by turning your speech into a quiz about you as a couple/ the wedding day.

Perform a musical mash-up

Make it themed.

If your bride or groom has a love for something specific, theme your entire speech around it. Take these maids of honour who did a Disney medley as an example:

Tom Fletcher from band McFly did one of the most famous and unusual groom’s speeches of all time. If you can hold a tune why not replicate his speech with your own song…

Nick Jonas went down the heartfelt route for his groom’s speech at his wedding to Priyanka Chopra in 2018 and nailed the thank you to his new mother in law.

Mark Wright from TOWIE gave way to the tears when talking about new wife Michelle Keegan at their wedding: “Not only are you beautiful, but you are one of the most incredible people I have ever met. You truly are sensational in every single way.” Take inspiration from his touching way to be emotional without making everyone feel awkward.

Not a groom’s speech, but you could definitely steal the idea from the best man speech of Danny McKenzie at footballer Jamie Milligan’s wedding – he pretended he had forgotten the speech and then played a video that “showed” him racing through fields and various places James Bond-style to retrieve it…

Hollie Bond

Hollie is a lifestyle journalist with over ten years’ experience working in the wedding industry as Lifestyle Editor for You & Your Wedding magazine Also a Regional Editor for Muddy Stilettos, Hollie has written for Square Meal magazine, Family History Monthly, BBC History magazine and Homes & Antiques. In her spare time you can find Hollie in a dance studio practising ballet…

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The Ultimate Groom's Wedding Speech Checklist

Don't leave anyone or anything important off your list of thank yous.

The groom's wedding speech is often about covering all bases. It doesn't have the bravado and general LOLs of a best man speech , the gushing and poignant words of a bridesmaid speech , or all the nostalgia and tear-jerking words of a father of the bride or groom speech. Instead, a groom's speech is half admin, half emotion; kind of like an Oscar acceptance!

A chance to shout out the wedding party, thank the ushers, and tell your new in-laws how chuffed you are to be part of the family. To help you write your speech - and to make sure you don't leave anyone out - we've put together a handy groom's wedding speech checklist . You'll thank us later!

A groom doing a speech solo is more common, but we've also seen lots of couples do their thank you speech together , as well as brides making speeches too ( more ladies on the mic please !). Our list covers all bases and standard family structures, but tweak it as is appropriate for you and your crew. We can guarantee if you hit all the points on the list below, then you will have covered all your bases. Hopefully it comes in handy for whatever kind of wedding thank you speech you're making.

Groom's Wedding Speech Checklist

(In no particular order, but this order makes for a nice crescendo!)

• Thank the guests for coming - give a special shout out to anyone who's come a long way.
• Thank any staff or suppliers who worked on the day - only those present.
• Thank the celebrant - if present.
• Thank anyone who helped in the lead up to the day (outside of the wedding party and immediate family) - any one who gave lifts, stitched bunting, glued centrepieces, etc.
• Thank anyone who took part in the day itself - ceremony readings , music, wedding cake baker, etc.
• Mention your new parents in law and siblings - this is a good time to tell them how happy you are to join the family, how welcome/terrified they made you feel, how you promise to be there for their son or daughter/brother or sister..
• Mention your siblings  - be specific about things they helped you with or special memories. This is also a good time to mention any other special family members, grandparents, step-parents, etc.
• Mention your parents - if both your parents are present, thank them both individually, usually an anecdote about the kind of person they've taught you to be goes down well.
• Thank your wedding party - make sure both sides get a mention, though it's fine to gush a bit harder about your best man!
• Thank your other half - for marrying you, for looking fabulous, for being wonderful, and all the other good things you can think of. Remember to tell them all about why you love them and why you can't wait to get started with married life!

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Wedding speeches are an essential part of every wedding. They let all the members of the bridal party and guests share their overwhelming emotions about the big day. Best wedding speeches stay in our memory forever, marking the significance of the wedding day for everyone involved. It can be quite challenging to fit all the feelings you want to share into a single toast . In this article, you will find invaluable tips from the expert Amanda Layton, an experienced wedding vow and speechwriter, in crafting memorable wedding speeches.

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Wedding Speeches Examples

Best wedding speeches.

Writing a wedding speech can seem daunting, but with some preparation and guidance, you can deliver a heartfelt and memorable speech that will be cherished by the newlyweds and their guests.

Good evening, everyone. For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Sarah, and I’m the ___ I’ve known the bride, Emily, since we were little girls, and we’ve been best friends ever since. I remember the first time she told me about Alex, and how excited she was to go on a date with him. From that moment on, I knew he was something special. Seeing them together over the years has been such a joy, and I’m so happy to be here today to celebrate their love. Emily, you are the most kind, caring, and generous person I know. And Alex, you are her perfect match. I’ve never seen her so happy as she is with you. I know you will continue to be each other’s best friend, confidant, and partner in all of life’s adventures. So, let’s raise a glass to the newlyweds. May your love continue to grow stronger with each passing day. Congratulations!

Groom Wedding Speech

“I would like to thank my parents for all the help they have given me over the years, if it wasn’t for them I wouldn’t be here now. I would also like to thank (my wife’s) parents for making me feel like the son they never wanted, sorry the son they never had, right from day 2. Day 1 was a bit rough, but hey, they’re over it now. I would also like to thank them for having such a beautiful, intelligent, kind, and caring daughter. I hope to do you both proud and thank you both for everything you have done today and to make today happen.”

The groom’s wedding speech starts at the reception. On behalf of himself and his bride, he expresses his gratitude to everyone involved in the wedding preparations. He toasts his parents, bridesmaids, and the groom’s party, and mentions their help and support. His speech is often quite sentimental, as he shares some personal memories. He also mentions how his life has changed since he met his bride.

Wedding Speeches for Parents

When the kids find love, the parents are also happy. So, it rests upon them to give wedding reception speeches in honor of their children. Now, depending on the chosen style, you’ll have to fit in with the wedding theme. Most times, a funny speech is just perfect, because it works for every wedding. Below, we’ll see wedding speech examples for different parents.

Wedding Speeches for Mother of the Groom

“The first time I saw you, it was love. My little baby grew into a wobbly toddler, and then a smart child. The pre-teen and teen years and the next thing I knew, you’ve become a man. I am so proud of you. You’ve made us proud of everything you’ve done. And on your wedding today, we wish you only the best.”

As a mother of the groom, wedding speeches for your son will be an emotional one. You’ll talk about his growing up, the bond you share, and how he was well-raised. You can add one or two romantic quotes  and close. See the wedding speeches sample below.

Wedding Speeches for Mother of the Bride

“It’s no news that we love our kids so much, and seeing them grow up is hard. Everything they do fills you with pride. But you also miss the little girl who cuddles into you. And cried to you when she scraped her knee. Now my daughter is older and I’m grateful and proud that she found love in the groom. May your lives be long, happy, and peaceful together.”

The wedding speeches for mother of the bride isn’t a norm. But today, it’s becoming acceptable especially if the father isn’t involved. Tell your daughter that she’s beautiful and strong. Talk about the good memories in her growing years. And if her father has passed, talk about him with fondness.

Wedding Speeches for Father of the Groom

“My greatest blessing is having a son, one that mirrors me in many ways. But like his dream, he’s grown into his own person. He has taught me as much as I’ve taught him and I’m proud. My son is someone who goes the extra mile for people and I know he’ll make an amazing husband. I wish you every best, as we raise our glass to the groom and his amazing bride.”

Your son getting married excites you because he carries on the torch. Again, he will be looking to you for support and wisdom for marriage. So, good wedding speeches from the father of the groom must contain lots of quotes about marriage . Draw inspiration from talking about your own marriage, the bond you share, and why he’s a great son.

Wedding Speeches for Father of the Bride

“Looking at both of you in your beautiful dress and dapper suit, my wedding day comes to mind. We were quite excited, filled with love, merriment, and of course nervousness. From me to you, I’ll tell you for free that a successful marriage requires falling in love many times. And doing it with the same person always.”

As the father of the bride, you have responsibilities to your baby girl. From walking her down the aisle to the father-daughter dance. Throwing in a great speech is just perfect. Let your love for your baby shine through and talk about her growing up. Remember the groom, give them pieces of advice, and your best wishes. See the wedding speeches template below for some inspiration.

Wedding Speeches for Sister

Ladies and gentlemen, today I stand before you with immense pride and joy as I celebrate my sister’s union with [Groom’s Name]. As her older sister, I’ve had the privilege of watching her grow into the amazing woman she is today. She has found in [Groom’s Name] the love and support she deserves. Here’s to a lifetime filled with love, laughter, and cherished memories. Cheers to the newlyweds!

When delivering a wedding speech for your sister, begin by expressing your love and pride for her. Share heartfelt stories that illustrate her special qualities, highlight her relationship with the groom, and offer well-wishes for their future. End your speech by raising a toast to the newlyweds.

Best Man Wedding Speech

Take a look at this great example of a witty speech, presented by the best man.

“There comes a time in everyone’s life when they meet their one true love, their soul mate, the person that’s going to know and love them for the rest of their life. That moment came for the groom…3 years ago when he met me. Good afternoon ladies and gentlemen, for those of you that don’t know me my name, is Dan, What-would-you-like-to-drink. I hope you’ll come and say hello at the bar later, but please…call me by my full name. On behalf of the bride and groom, I’d like to thank you all for coming. And I want to give special thanks to the parents of the bride and groom… it’s amazing how far some people are willing to travel, just for some free food and drink. And finally, I’d like to thank my best friend (the groom), for giving me the first EVER opportunity…. to be able to speak for five minutes without him interrupting!”

Wedding speeches best man deliver are usually the most humorous of all the others. Thank you’s are also appropriate, especially to the bridesmaids and fellow groomsmen. Some anecdotes about the groom would be also much anticipated. People expect wedding best man speeches to be memorable, funny, with well wishes to the couple . Humor is a must.

100+ Best Wedding Toasts For Different Types Of Guests

Maid of honor speech.

“Before I go any further, I just want to say, Bride, you look absolutely beautiful and Groom, you’ve never looked more handsome. For those of you who don’t know me and for those who can’t tell, I’m Bride’s sister. Thank you Bride for the honor of being your bridesmaid. Obviously, I’ve known Bride all of my life and we know more about each other than we would probably care to. We’ve laughed together, cried together, and laughed until we’ve cried. We’ve also had the odd fight! We also have so many inside jokes that only we find funny.”

There is one thing all wedding speeches maid of honor makes have in common: they boost the bride. Like any other wedding speech, the maid of honor’s speech can be witty and humorous, but the most important feature of this category is love and sentimentality. Add a couple of memorable stories you have of the newlyweds. Don’t forget well wishes!

Wedding Speeches for Best Friends

“I’m here to talk about two very special people, John and Eve. I’ve been friends with Eve since kindergarten. On our first day at school, we met and formed a friendship that has lived two decades and some. We got into trouble a lot and got grounded many times by the parents. My bestie is free-spirited and has a strong will to date. James, I hope you’re prepared for marriage with a woman who is full of life and spirit. With her, you’ll never live the same day twice. I wish you heaven’s best all your life. A toast…”

Wedding Welcoming Speeches

“Welcome to the celebration of James and Eve’s wedding. A tale of love that promises to last forever. Today promises to be one of beauty, friendships formed, and bonds lasting forever. For you all who have come from far and near to celebrate, we hope you take joy home with you. The happiness of marriage is the highest happiness on earth. And this is what we’ve witnessed today. Sit back, relax, have the time of your lives, and thank you for choosing to share in our joy.

Funny Wedding Speeches

Good evening everyone! For those who don’t know me, I’m the groom’s brother. I’d like to start by saying that I’m delighted to see so many people here tonight, and I hope you’re all enjoying the celebrations as much as we are. Now, it’s not often that you get to make a speech at your brother’s wedding, so I thought I’d take this opportunity to share a few stories about him. Growing up, my brother was always the smart one. He was top of his class and excelled at everything he did. And then he met his beautiful bride-to-be, and everything changed. Suddenly he became clumsy, forgetful, and absent-minded. I guess you could say that love really does make you do crazy things. But in all seriousness, I couldn’t be happier for the two of them. They truly are a perfect match, and I have no doubt that they will have a long and happy life together. So let’s raise a glass to the newlyweds – may your marriage be filled with love, laughter, and lots of adventures!

Writing a funny wedding speech can entertain guests and create lasting memories. Keep it appropriate, short, know your audience, and practice for a smooth delivery.

Short Wedding Speech Ideas

“Groom, thank you for being an anchor, a friend, and brother. And I can’t be more proud that you married an amazing bride. Man! You’ve won a lottery! We celebrate both of you tonight, and all of the good things you are. You care for everyone and I’m sure you’ll care for her. We wish you success, laughter, and love. May your humor in bad times and appreciation in good times never leave you. May you get answers to prayers. May the friendship you share keep growing till death parts you. Cheers to you!”

Whether you’re giving wedding speeches for the bride, best man, or brother; the shorter the better. This will help make sure you don’t bore the audience. 11 /14

Wedding Thank You Speeches

“We (couple) worked really hard to make this day perfect. But we remembered that being bound to the one you love in the presence of your loved ones — is what makes the day perfect. I’m overjoyed that we had beautiful weather. The food and drinks were great and everyone is happy. Thank you all, especially my beloved, because today I’m bound to him to start a beautiful journey together. And after all my fears and jitters, today turned out to be much more memorable than we planned. Thank you.”

Wedding thank you speeches give you the opportunity to thank your guests. You will also extend your appreciation to everyone who made your day possible. If you intend to mention names, have a list, so that you don’t leave anyone out. This speech can come from the bride or groom. But it’s always better to skip the names. Also, infuse some humor. 12 /14

Wedding Officiant Speeches

“Shall we all sit? Today, we gather to witness and celebrate the matrimony of Eve and James. What they have is an existing bond, and we’ve come together to strengthen it. As family and friends, it’s our honor to witness today. Marriage is a lifetime commitment where two people work tirelessly to bring out the best in each other. You get an opportunity to share your joys, success, failures, and burdens with an ally for life. You get an opportunity to share and grow. One relationship which no other can equal. You are in for a physical and emotional binding that has the promise of a lifetime.”

Great wedding officiant speeches must be short, sweet, and have the perfect length to keep guests dialed in. The officiant should leverage the relationship and how much they know the couple. You must also tailor your speech in line with the wedding style. 13 /14

Wedding Anniversary Speeches

“Anniversaries are beautiful recollections of the past years and reflections for the years to come. The years past were happy and successful ones in many ways. They’re shrouded in a kaleidoscope of great relationships, supportive families, and happy memories. I’m not saying it’s smooth, but with your support, the journey became easier. We can only be grateful, even as we look forward to better years. As we celebrate our 50th year, I want to thank you for walking with us. It’s not a question of where you, it’s who goes with you. Thank you, everyone.”

A wedding anniversary speech must be heartfelt, sweet, and short. Whoever is giving the speech must know that it’s a time to reminisce and give good wishes. So, you’ll talk about the marriage, throw in some humor and bless the couple. If it’s the couple giving the speech, some advice will go a long way. 14 /14

Wedding Quotes for Speeches

“I’ve seen nothing more satisfying than two people coming together to become one. They share in each other’s pleasure, and bear each other’s pain. They crush their enemies together and make home with their friends.” “The pain and weight of life vanish from our lives by one word. It sets us free and we live again. It’s called LOVE.” “If you want to keep your marriage cup filled and running over, always admit your wrongs. And, if you’re right, be kind to shut up.”

Wedding Speeches Tips

Ready to seize the mic, command the room, and leave everyone applauding your wedding speech? Not quite yet? Amanda Layton, a Professional Wedding Speech Writer, shared top 5 tips to help you craft and deliver an epic wedding speech. With a little bit of guidance, you’ll be delivering an unforgettable wedding toast template that captures hearts and makes memories for years to come!

• Keep it Short and Sweet First things first–when it comes to wedding speeches less is more. Did you know that a 5-minute speech is approximately 700 words? It’s important to keep your speech concise and to the point, ensuring that every word is impactful and resonates with the audience.
• Skip the Roasts Steer clear of roasting the couple. It might sound funny in your head, but trust me, some things are better left unsaid. Avoid cringeworthy moments by focusing on heartwarming and positive anecdotes that celebrate the couple’s journey and love.
• Harness the Power of Storytelling Capture everyone’s attention by using storytelling to highlight either the bride or groom’s wonderful qualities. Is she loyal, adventurous, generous, or kind-hearted? Is he optimistic, resilient, hilarious, etc? Share a touching story that really showcases one of these character traits, allowing everyone to get a deeper insight into how amazing this person truly is.
• Celebrate the Path to Becoming a Husband or Wife Remember that this is a wedding celebration and your wedding speech is a great opportunity to encourage the bride in her new role as a wife or the groom in his new role as a husband. Share your heartfelt wishes and why you believe they will make an amazing partner in this new chapter of their life.
• Practice Makes Perfect Confidence is key! Practice your speech a few times to build up your self-assurance. Remember to speak slowly when practicing because you are more likely to speed up in front of a crowd. Think of the areas you might tear up at and remember to pause and take a second to breathe. You don’t have to rush through the toast. Everyone wants to hear what you clearly have to say. Here’s the thing, the audience wants you to succeed, so embrace those nerves and let them fuel your confident delivery! You’ve got this, my friend! With these tips and a little bit of preparation, your speech is bound to be a show-stopper that leaves everyone applauding and reaching for the tissues! Crafting a memorable wedding speech is an art form, and your words have the power to touch hearts and create lasting memories.

Wedding Speeches Order

The order of wedding speeches can vary depending on cultural traditions and personal preferences. However, a common order for wedding speeches is as follows:

• Father of the Bride: Welcomes guests, and expresses love and pride for his daughter.
• Groom: Thanks guests, expresses gratitude to both families, and shares love for the bride.
• Best Man: Shares humorous anecdotes about the groom, and proposes a toast.
• Maid/Matron of Honor: Expresses friendship and admiration for the bride, offers wisdom, and proposes a toast.
• Additional speeches: Other family members or friends may give shorter speeches or toasts as desired. Note: The order and inclusion of speeches can be customized to the couple’s preferences. Communication with the wedding party beforehand is essential for a smooth flow of the reception.

Wedding Speeches Template

Learning how to write a wedding speech involves creating a heartfelt and memorable outline.

Introduction:

• Greet the guests and introduce yourself.
• Express your gratitude for being chosen to speak at the wedding.

Personal Connection:

• Share a personal story or memory about the couple.
• Talk about your relationship with either the bride or groom (or both) and how you’ve seen their love grow.

Compliments and Qualities:

• Compliment the couple individually and as a pair.
• Highlight their qualities and what makes them a great match.

Anecdotes and Humor:

• Share light-hearted and funny anecdotes about the couple.
• Keep the humor appropriate and avoid embarrassing stories.

Words of Wisdom:

• Offer advice or lessons on love, marriage, or relationships.
• Use heartfelt and meaningful quotes or poems if desired.
• Raise a toast to the couple’s happiness and future together.
• Invite guests to join in raising their glasses and toasting.
• Express well wishes and congratulations to the newlyweds.
• End with a final heartfelt message or a toast to love.

Remember to personalize the speech to your relationship with the couple and make it heartfelt and authentic. Practice it beforehand to ensure a smooth delivery and consider keeping the speech around 3-5 minutes in length.

Things You’d Better Exclude From Any Wedding Speech

At the same time, there are things great wedding speeches avoid.

• Do not include any embarrassing information.
• Do not mention previous boyfriends or girlfriends of the newlyweds.
• Do not say rude things like ‘We thought that day would never come’.
• Do not include any crude language, there are all sorts of guests around, and what is totally appropriate in a group of friends is inappropriate at the celebration.
• Adding humor, don’t make fun of the bride or groom. This is your best friend’s wedding, do not spoil it! If in doubt – use examples above, but by no means copy them. It is only a piece of speech to boost your imagination.

Wedding Speeches can be tricky to write, but we hope that now you have everything you need to deliver a perfect speech. A couple of jokes, a sentimental story, and letting your love for the couple shine is all it takes.

What Not to Say in a Wedding Speech

• Embarrassing Stories : Steer clear of tales that could embarrass the couple.
• Negative Remarks : Refrain from negative comments or jokes.
• Excessive Inside Jokes : Ensure your speech is inclusive for all guests.
• Lengthy Monologues : Keep it concise and engaging.
• Controversial Topics : Avoid sensitive or controversial subjects.
• Overuse of Clichés : Aim for originality over clichés.
• Inappropriate Humor : Be mindful of cultural or personal sensitivities.

Frequently Asked Questions

What do you say in a wedding speech.

• Express your love and support for the couple.
• Share personal anecdotes or stories about them.
• Offer well-wishes for their future together.

How long should a wedding speech be?

What is an example of a short marriage speech.

To [Couple’s Name], may your love be as endless as the horizon, your laughter as infectious as a melody, and your journey together full of joy. Here’s to a lifetime of love and happiness. Cheers!

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How to write a Groom’s wedding speech

Nail your nerves and craft a groom’s speech that’ll blow your wedding guests away.

As a groom, what makes the perfect wedding speech? Should you be funny like the best man? Emotional like the maid of honour ? Or pull the heart strings like the father of the bride? Well, the answer is, a little bit of each would be ideal! With some admin thrown in. Unlike many of the other wedding speeches being given on the day, the groom’s speech is basically one big thank you. There’s no set things you should say, no style it has to be written in, or reaction it needs to receive. Essentially, you just have to praise and complement those closest to you for all their hard work ( and money ), while thanking the assembled guests for being there. Easy, right…?

If you’re not used to speaking in public, or you’re unsure of exactly how to lay out your speech, don’t worry. We’ve put together some easy-to-follow tips that’ll help you write the perfect groom speech for your wedding day.

The people you need to thank

As mentioned, the groom’s speech is all about thanking friends and family who were involved in putting the wedding together. Alongside that, it’s nice to also welcome the other side of the family, as well as remembering those who couldn’t be there on the day. Suppliers too, if you feel they played a really significant part in your day being a success, share the ones who deserve a special mention. You never know, it could lead to one of your loved ones hiring your wedding photographer for their big day.

Give your speech structure

It could be tempting to just run head first towards all those thank-yous, desperately trying not to miss anyone out. This approach, although potentially fun to watch, will seem quite chaotic and almost certainly lead to you missing important members of the wedding party out. Instead, organise your thoughts, and create an outline. You don’t need to write your groom’s speech out and follow it word by word on the wedding day. But you should have bullet notes you can (mentally) tick off as you go. Here’s a simple outline that will work for most groom speeches: · Introduce yourself, and say a few words about the day so far. · Welcome everyone, and thank them for coming · Thank specific people involved in the wedding. · Share a personal anecdote or story about your wedding planning journey, or relationship. · Share how you feel about your spouse. · Thank everyone for coming again and let guests know any information the venue has given you. Food or bar times, when certain events will be, that sort of thing. · Raise a toast.

Keep it light, but don’t force humour

We’re not all blessed with a funny bone. If you’re someone who’s never been the joker in the pack, the wisecracker in the group. Don’t force yourself to be one during your groom’s speech, on your wedding day! Your guests know you, they love you, and they want to hear a speech that sounds like it came from you, not Seinfeld. However, if making a joke here and there is part of your personality, by all means, use humour in your speech. But it’s important to strike a balance between laughs and sentiment. Guests should get a sense of how serious you are about the day, and feel your emotions. And they can’t do that if you’re just delivering a stand-up routine. Keep wedding guests interested and engaged in your groom’s speech by bouncing back and forth between playfulness and sentimentality. Jokes, interspersed with more serious, and emotional parts, is the key to a successful groom’s speech.

How long should a Groom’s wedding speech be?

The secret to any good speech is to keep it short and sweet. However humorous, or emotional your groom’s speech is, wedding guests will soon start to nod off if it goes on too long. Likewise, if you only share a couple of words, there’s no way loved ones will get a sense of how you feel about the day, or their contribution. Recite, or practice your groom’s speech ahead of the wedding day, multiple times, so you know how long it is. And remember that nervous energy will potentially take over on the day, speeding up the whole speech , and shaving off 30 seconds from the total time. Another reason why it’s important to practice. Overall, on your wedding day, aim to keep your groom’s speech around 2–3 minutes long. In that time, you should be able to convey just how delighted and thankful you truly are. Without sending any older relatives off to sleep! We hope we have inspired your groom’s speech, and hopefully settled some nerves ahead of the wedding day! It would be a pleasure to guide you further, and introduce you to our lovely wedding venue in Co Kildare. The Abbey is only an hour away from Dublin, and has an 18th century chapel on-site, a stunning ballroom, multiple events spaces and 38 contemporary style rooms. You are welcome to have a browse of our wedding venue online , and if you like what you see, please get in touch via our contact page to book a viewing. And while you wait for your visit, you can find out more about us via our online brochure .

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Most people would agree that public speaking isn't easy, and this is especially true when you're feeling the added pressure that comes along with giving a speech at a loved one's wedding. Not only do you have the attention of dozens (if not hundreds!) of guests you probably don't know, but you're also trying to appeal to a group of people in a wide range of ages from all different phases of the couple's lives. What's more, you want your speech to delight the couple of the hour and be as appealing to your group of friends as it to the newlyweds' grandparents. All in all, it's a tough task.

Before you panic, know that we're here to help. Ahead, we're sharing a comprehensive guide on what you should include in your speech , how to nail your delivery, and questions to consider to get the brainstorming process started—all from noteworthy speakers, well-established speechwriters, and wedding planners (who have seen it all).

Wedding Speech Template

Every great wedding speech has one thing in common: the right flow. Factor in these guidelines to help you find your own organic rhythm.

Open With a Statement or Question

Don't lead with a joke or a reference to how nervous you are. "The goal is to engage your audience, not make it a boring one-way message," says award-winning motivational speaker Jaime Pfeffer . "You'll lose them if you do this."

Introduce Yourself

After your opener, introduce yourself, says Fallon Carter , a wedding planner, even designer, and professional speaker. "A lot of times, people don't know who is speaking, and they don't know their relationship to the bride or the groom," she says. "It's really important to identify yourself, so make sure you've prepared something."

Address Your Audience

As speaker and life strategy coach Mark Black, CSP , points out, focusing on yourself only enhances nerves. "Instead, concentrate on your audience and how you want them to feel. This will help you to speak from the heart, allowing your speech to do what it's supposed to do: Make the couple feel special while also engaging the audience."

Focus on a Few Points

Seasoned speaker Susan Bender Phelps, CEO of Odyssey Mentoring & Leadership , says her top guideline is to select one to three aspects of the newlyweds that you love and appreciate, along with no more than three short stories to illustrate each of these points (or that one point). "The simple, succinct story or stories where the bride and groom are the hero will work best." This is an excellent way to structure your speech and keep your message focused.

How Long Wedding Speeches Should Be

The ideal length for a speech is three to five minutes, with five minutes being the absolute maximum you should speak for. That's it. "I’ve never been to a wedding where anyone said, 'That was a great wedding, but the best man speech was just too short and that  ruined  it,'" says David Litt , the speechwriter for former President Barack Obama and author of Thanks, Obama .

Carter agrees: "I always say anywhere between two and five minutes—and no more than five minutes," she says. "You want to keep things short and sweet." It's just as important to keep in mind when the speech will take place when determining length, since toasts are often timed with meal courses: "Be mindful of how long a course generally takes or how long it takes people to eat," Carter adds, noting that most courses last between 15 and 20 minutes and that several speeches have to fit inside each window. "If there are other people speaking, you want to be mindful and give them space."

Wedding Speech Tips

Now that you've established the right framework for your words, take note of these essential tips for acing the delivery from a few speaking pros.

Rehearse Regularly

The better prepared you are, the more confident you'll be and the better your speech will be, says author and professional speaker Barry Maher . A good rule of thumb is to practice the speech enough that you can remember the points you want to make and the order in which you want to make them. That way, you can look out to the crowd and make eye contact every so often.

Record Yourself Practicing

Use your phone to take a video of yourself practicing, suggests Kate Kenfield , speaker and sex educator. "It can be a little uncomfortable to watch yourself, but you'll be able to identify distracting mannerisms, such as the verbal pauses 'um,' 'uh,' and 'like'." It's also a good idea to practice your speech in front of someone else. "A second opinion can help you craft your piece and make it that much stronger," she says.

Don't forget body language! Rehearse the speech in front of a mirror and notice things like your facial expression, eye contact, and hand position.

Avoid Alcohol

Although it may be tempting to look for some liquid courage, alcohol definitely won't do you any favors, warns keynote speaker Amy Morin , author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do . "It may cause you to slur your speech and forget your lines, so wait until after your toast to celebrate," she advises. If you need a drink to loosen up the nerves or can't refrain from participating in a toast without being rude, stick to one glass of Champagne before you address the crowd.

Use Nerves to Your Advantage

A little nervousness can actually liven up your speech. "I get worried if I'm not a little nervous," says Maher. "I'll actually try to make myself a little tense to get my energy level up." The key is to harness that energy and communicate it in a positive, genuine way; tensing up to the point that you forget your words or panic won't make for a great presentation.

Be Yourself

Keep in mind that you're not putting on a show, only sharing your personal perspective. Trying too hard to force the funny can yield the opposite of the desired effect, cautions Matt Dalley, co-founder of Simply Eloped . "I've noticed that keeping it short and sweet, heartfelt and warm, and coming across as authentic and focused on the couple is something we are all capable of and generates some very wonderful moments," he says.

Never Embarrass the Newlyweds

It's a wedding toast, not a roast. While this should go without saying, keep the bachelor or bachelorette party jokes out of it, and remember that grandma and possibly a few colleagues are in the audience, notes Laurie Battaglia , a keynote speaker and workplace strategist. "It's okay to look back at childhood and refer to something funny, but ask yourself if you'd like 200-plus of your closest friends knowing that story about you."

Use Your Notes

Reading your speech straight from a piece of paper is a big no-no. However, having a couple of note cards handy is encouraged. "You're likely to be nervous, excited, and exhausted, which can make you forget your lines," explains Morin. "The audience won't care if you glance at your notes. In fact, there's a good chance they won't even notice."

Wedding Speech Brainstorm Ideas

Need some inspiration? Ask yourself these questions to get the brainstorming process going.

• Who will speak before you? After you? How will this affect the content of your toast? (Perhaps you want to include a reference to their speech, thank them for an introduction, or introduce the next speaker).
• Is there someone you should thank for making the event possible and inviting you to speak?
• What would you want to hear in this speech if you were in the audience?
• Is there a favorite story or memory that the couple would want you to share with their friends and family?

Wedding Speech Examples to Make Your Own

So, what does it look like when all these elements come together? Wedding vow and speechwriter Katelyn Peterson , owner and creator of Wedding Words , offered us three examples of successful toasts to inspire your own.

Maid of Honor Wedding Speech Example

"Hi, I’m Maya, the bride’s older sister . With Lucy being three years younger, we fell right into our respective roles as sister-rivals growing up. We constantly fought over stolen clothes, monopolizing the phone back when landlines were a thing, and what boy band to blare from the car speakers. I’m still Team Backstreet Boys while Lucy is forever indebted to NSYNC.

Looking back on those memories, I should have stepped up and granted Lucy permission to wear my favorite sweater for picture day, to hand her the phone once in a while, and to let her play, 'Bye Bye Bye.' Even I can admit that’s a good one. But despite Lucy being the younger sister, she has always been more patient, more accommodating, and more thoughtful than me. And that’s because when it comes to the people she loves, she’s all in.

She’s the one to prioritize their desires. She’s the one to compromise first. And, she’s the one to support their dreams as if they were her own. 

This is why it makes me so happy to know that Lucy has found a home in David. He matches her in compassion, thoughtfulness, and warmth. And I know he’ll spend his life prioritizing her desires, being ready to compromise, and supporting her dreams as his own.

Cheers to Lucy and David! May you always feel loved because you always put each other first."

Best Man Wedding Speech Example

"Hello, everyone. My name is Luke and I’m the best man . I met Robert eight years ago when I became his neighbor. His reputation preceded him as I had heard about the 'Block Party King' before my closing papers were inked. 

Rob has never been the guy to wear fancy clothes. In fact, I’m still in shock seeing him in that tux tonight. And he’s never been the guy to show off even though the work he’s put into his vintage Mustang could make Henry Ford himself envious.

But when it comes to cooking, he should receive an award. His pulled pork is a staple at our summer block parties and his homemade barbeque sauce has remained our neighborhood’s best-kept secret. But the most satisfying part about his delicious dishes is that there’s always plenty to go around. And Rob makes sure your plate is never empty. I have no idea how he pulls it off, but Rob has a covert ability to scoop seconds onto your plate without you ever seeing him do it. I hope you all came hungry tonight, folks. You’ve been warned! 

The first time I met Jasmine I could immediately tell she was an amazing person. She laughed at his jokes which I never thought anyone would get. She supported his career and the nonstop travel involved. But most importantly, whenever we’re all hanging out, Jasmine is the one always topping off Rob’s plate with more pasta, more chicken, more of everything. When she’s around, it’s never empty. 

And that’s when I saw what a perfect match they were for each other. I know they will always put each other first, make sure their needs are met, and will never allow the other to go hungry.

So let’s raise our glasses to toast the newlyweds! As you begin this next chapter together, may your plates and your hearts always remain full."

Father of the Bride Wedding Speech Example

"Good evening, family, and friends. I’m Daniel Lee, the father of the bride. I’d like to welcome you to this special occasion where we get to celebrate the love between my daughter Allison and her new wife, Kristin. 

Standing up here today, I’m reminded of all the moments that led to this significant one. The dance recitals that ended with standing ovations and the soccer games that concluded with winning scoreboards. 

But, while those were fun and rewarding times, those aren’t the moments I cherish most with Allison. The memories that make me smile the brightest are those in-between the big stuff moments. It’s the makeshift magic shows in our living room using a bedsheet that Allison confiscated from our linen closet to convert into a curtain. It’s the countless tea parties she hosted with exclusive invitations just for me and her beloved stuffed bear, Buttons. And it’s the way she’d beg to stay up for just five more minutes but was asleep on the couch by minute number two.

Those everyday, blink-and-you’ll-miss-them moments with Allison are the ones that gave color to my life and filled my heart with a happiness I never knew could exist.

So, my beautiful daughter, as you begin your life with Kristin today, I have one wish for you: May your warmest memories come from the ordinary moments throughout your marriage, and may those moments give you a reason to smile brighter every day. Cheers! I love you both." —Daniel

What Not to Say in a Wedding Speech

Your job when delivering a wedding speech is to keep things light—tell an anecdote, make an emotional connection, then wish the couple well before you close out. Anything that doesn't feel definitively positive should be avoided. "I would advocate against bringing up negative details, specifically past relationships or past spouses," says Carter. "Skip anything that you wouldn't want to be physically recorded and played over and over again—this is a rule of thumb."

Keep it light, delicate, and present- and future-focused, Carter adds. "If you're going to go into the past, make those stories really intentional," she says. "Bring those stories back to who they are now. Your mission is to create a great environment and vibe and to potentially give some information about one of the newlyweds, so that it's enlightening for all guests."

A Guide to Wedding Reception Toasts

• Who Gives a Speech at a Wedding Reception?
• How to Write a Wedding Toast
• Tips for the Father of the Bride Speech
• How to Write a Best Man Toast
• Advice for the Maid of Honor Speech
• What to Know About a Newlywed Toast
• currently on Public Speaking Experts' Wedding Speech Tips
• 60 Quotes to Use for Your Wedding Toast

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GROOM SPEECH STRUCTURE

Wondering how to put together a speech for your wedding and what the groom speech structure should actually be? We’ve provided a simple guide to what you should include in your speech on your wedding day.

Let’s be clear for starters, there’s no right or wrong way groom speech template to use. You can include anything you want in your speech – it is your wedding day after all!

There’s also no requirement whatsoever on length. Make it as long or short as you are comfortable with and use these groom’s speech examples for some inspiration.

While you might well want to make things special to you, your new wife, your families and guests with some personal touches and stories, there are several things that you should definitely include in your speech.

• The Ultimate Guide to Wedding Speeches & Toasts . Our go-to guide.
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A great way to start your speech, for example, is to begin with the words “My wife and I…”. It will be the first time you have addressed anyone as husband and wife and it gets the speech off to a great start.

Don’t forget the thank yous either. Get off to the right start with your new father in law by thanking him for his kind words, if he has delivered his speech before you, and your mother in law if she has performed a speech too.

Thank you guests for coming and being part of your special day, thank your own family for all the help you have received, and also anyone who has gone the extra mile in the build up to the wedding. And finish by thanking your new wife, giving her some flattery in the process too.

FUNNY ANECDOTES / STORIES

This is now your stage and certainly the time to include some groom’s speech jokes . The formalities are out of the way. Start with a gag or a one-liner and you’ll be off and running. Use props to add to the stories you are telling.

Tell a story or two about how you met, how you fell in love and why you knew she was the one for you. Entertain guests with some of the funny moments of relationships, buying your new house or living together for the first time, a holiday moment or something that will make the guests laugh. Even talk about something poignant in your speech at this stage if there is something close to your hearts.

RAISE A TOAST TO THE BRIDE

End the speech with a return to the formalities. After a special message to your new wife make a brief comment to the guests – “Finally, I would like to say thank you again to all of you for celebrating with us today” or something similar – and get the wedding breakfast to raise a toast to your new wife:  “And could you all please raise your glasses to my beautiful wife, the one I love…”

HAND OVER TO THE BEST MAN

It is time for you to take a deep breath, sit back and relax and have a bit of fun poked your way by your best man. At the end of your speech, hand over to him and prepare to be the center of the ribbing.

How to Write a Groom Speech

Introduction

As the groom, one of the most significant moments of your wedding day is delivering a speech to your guests. This is your opportunity to express your gratitude, share your love story, and thank everyone for their support. However, writing a groom’s speech can be nerve-wracking, and it can be challenging to know where to start. In this article, I’ll provide you with a step-by-step guide on how to write a groom’s speech that will leave a lasting impression on your guests.

There are some Groom Speech Templates at the bottom of this page. Feel free to copy and amend them to suit your needs.

Also, check my tips on How to Write a Best Man Speech and How to Write a Father of the Bride Speech .

Brainstorm and Outline

Before you start writing, take some time to brainstorm and jot down your key ideas and points. Think about what you want to say and how you want to say it. An outline will help you organise your thoughts and ensure your speech flows logically. Your outline will also help you stay on track and avoid going off-topic. Don’t worry if your outline seems rough or incomplete at first – the important thing is to get your ideas down on paper so you can start writing your speech.

Structure Your Speech

A well-structured speech will help you convey your message effectively. Start with an attention-grabbing opening line or joke, then follow a logical sequence of events, building up to the climax, which should be a toast to the future. Ensure your speech flows smoothly from one point to the next, and avoid jumping around or going off-topic. It’s also important to keep your speech short and sweet – aim for about three to five minutes. By structuring your speech effectively, you’ll be able to deliver a memorable and impactful message that your guests will cherish for years to come.

Start with a Hook

Starting your groom’s speech with a hook is a great way to grab your guests’ attention and set the tone for the rest of your speech. A hook can be a joke, a funny anecdote, or a personal story relevant to your message. It’s important to keep your hook appropriate for your audience and avoid anything offensive or controversial. By starting your speech with a hook, you’ll capture your guests’ interest and make them eager to hear the rest of your message. So take some time to think about your opening line and ensure it’s attention-grabbing and sets the tone for your speech.

Express Gratitude and Acknowledge Guests

Your guests have taken the time and effort to celebrate your special day with you, and it’s nice to thank them for their presence, support, and love. Consider acknowledging guests who travelled from far away or made a significant effort to attend your wedding. This will make them feel appreciated and valued. Make sure to express your gratitude from the heart and keep it authentic. Acknowledging your guests in your speech will make them feel special and create a positive and memorable atmosphere for everyone.

Share Your Love Story

Sharing your love story is an excellent way to connect with your guests and make your groom’s speech more personal and memorable. Tell them how you and your partner met, what you love about each other, and how you knew she was the one. Share your favourite memories or moments together and why they’re so unique to you. You can add humour or personal touches to make your love story unique and engaging. By sharing your love story, you’ll show your guests the depth of your love and commitment to your partner and make them feel part of your journey.

Acknowledge Your Bride

Acknowledging your new bride is a must in any groom’s speech. Your bride is the star of the day, and it’s essential to express your love and appreciation for her in your speech. Tell her how much you love her, why you’re grateful to have her in your life, and how much she means to you. You can also share personal anecdotes or moments illustrating your love and connection. Keep it heartfelt and genuine, and avoid anything embarrassing or inappropriate. By acknowledging the bride in your speech, you’ll show her how much she’s loved and appreciated and create a touching and memorable moment for everyone.

Thank the Parents and Wedding Party

Thanking your parents and wedding party is vital to any groom’s speech. Your parents have likely played a significant role in planning your wedding , and your wedding party has put in a lot of time and effort to make your day memorable. Express gratitude for their love, support, and hard work, and make them feel appreciated and valued. You can also share some personal anecdotes or moments that illustrate the significance of their contributions. However, make sure to keep it authentic and from the heart. By thanking your parents and wedding party in your speech, you’ll create a positive and memorable atmosphere and show them how much they mean to you.

Toast to the Future

Toasting to the future is the perfect way to end your groom’s speech positively and optimistically. Raise a glass to your partner, your guests, and your future together. Express your hopes, dreams, and aspirations for the life you will share as a married couple. Share your excitement for the adventures and challenges ahead and your commitment to facing them together. Keep it upbeat, and avoid anything too sentimental or emotional. By toasting to the future in your speech, you’ll create a meaningful and memorable moment for everyone and set the stage for a beautiful wedding celebration.

Keep It Short and Sweet

Aim for three to five minutes, and avoid rambling or going off-topic. Stay focused on your key points and your message, and avoid anything too long-winded or complicated. Remember that your guests are there to celebrate with you, and they want to hear from you, but they also want to enjoy the rest of the wedding celebration. Keeping your speech short and sweet will create a positive and engaging atmosphere for everyone and ensure your message is heard and appreciated.

Practice Makes Perfect

Practising your groom’s speech is crucial to delivering a confident and compelling message. Take time to rehearse your speech in front of a mirror or with a close friend or family member. This will help you become more comfortable with your material and confident in your delivery. Pay attention to your tone, pace, and body language, and adjust as needed. Rehearsing will also help you anticipate any nervousness or jitters you may feel on the big day and give you the tools to manage them. Remember that practice makes perfect, and the more you rehearse your speech, the more confident and prepared you’ll feel when it’s time to deliver it.

Be Authentic and Yourself

Your guests want to hear from you rather than a rehearsed version of yourself. So speak from the heart and let your personality shine through. Don’t be afraid to show your emotions, whether tears of joy or laughter. Remember that your guests are there to celebrate with you, and they want to feel a connection with you and your partner. By being authentic and yourself, you’ll create a personal and engaging atmosphere that your guests will appreciate and cherish. So take a deep breath, relax, and let your true self shine through in your speech.

In conclusion, delivering a groom’s speech can be a nerve-wracking experience. Still, you can deliver a heartfelt and memorable message with preparation and practice. Remember to consider your audience, structure your speech, express gratitude, share your love story, acknowledge the bride, thank your parents and wedding party, offer advice, toast to the future, keep it short and sweet, practice, and be authentic and yourself. Your speech should come from the heart and reflect your love and commitment to your partner. By following these tips, you can deliver a groom’s speech that will leave a lasting impression on your guests and create a beautiful and meaningful moment in your wedding celebration.

Groom Speech Templates

If you need help writing your Groom’s speech, don’t worry! I’ve got you covered. Below, you’ll find some Groom speech templates that you can use as a starting point for your speech. Feel free to amend the text as required and add your own anecdotes and stories to make your speech unique and personal. These templates are designed to give you some ideas and inspiration, so don’t be afraid to get creative and make the speech your own. Remember, speaking from the heart and celebrating the love between you and your new bride is the most important thing. So take a deep breath, relax, and let’s get started!

Groom Speech Template 1

Ladies and gentlemen, and especially my lovely bride, I can’t believe this day is finally here. I never thought I’d be the one standing here, with the love of my life by my side and our friends and family gathered here to celebrate with us.

Firstly, thank all of you for making the effort to be here today. Seeing so many familiar faces is genuinely humbling, and I’m grateful for your presence and love.

And to my beautiful bride, words can’t describe how much you mean to me. You are my best friend, my confidant, and my soulmate. I promise to love and cherish you for the rest of my life and to always put you first.

[Share an anecdote or story that is special to both of you.]

I also want to thank our parents and wedding party for their support and love throughout our journey. You have all played a significant role in making this day possible. We’re so grateful for everything you’ve done for us.

So let’s raise a glass to the future, to love, and to happiness. Cheers to our journey together and to many more happy memories to come.

Groom Speech Template 2

Dear friends and family, and my beautiful wife, I stand before you today, humbled and overwhelmed with gratitude. I never thought I’d be this lucky to find someone who completes me and makes me a better man.

To my wife, you are my life’s love, rock, and soulmate. I cherish every moment we spend together and am grateful for your unwavering support and love. You are the most beautiful thing that has ever happened to me, and I’m blessed to call you my wife.

I want to express my gratitude to our parents and our wedding party. You have been there for us through thick and thin, and we couldn’t have done this without your love and support.

So let’s raise a glass to the future, to love, and to all of the beautiful memories we will create together. Thank you all for being here to celebrate with us, and here’s to a lifetime of happiness and love.

Groom Speech Template 3

Good evening everyone, and thank you for joining us on this special day. I want to start by expressing my gratitude to my beautiful bride, who has made me the happiest man in the world. You have brought so much love and joy into my life, and I’m excited to spend the rest of my life with you.

I also want to thank our parents and wedding party for their love and support. You have all played an important role in our journey, and we’re grateful for everything you’ve done for us.

As we start our journey as husband and wife, I want to make some commitments to you. First and foremost, I will always be your biggest cheerleader. I will encourage and be there for you through the highs and lows. I’ll always continue learning and growing, strengthening us as a couple. And lastly, I promise to keep the love and laughter alive. Life is too short not to have fun together.

So let’s raise a glass to the future, to all the wonderful things yet to come. I’m excited about all the adventures and challenges ahead and grateful to have my best friend by my side. Here’s to a lifetime of love, happiness, and endless possibilities.

People Also Ask

When should a groom write his speech.

A groom should write his speech well in advance of the wedding day to allow enough time for brainstorming, outlining, and practice. Ideally, he should draft his speech a few weeks before the wedding day to ensure a polished and effective delivery.

How do you start a wedding speech for the groom?

To start a wedding speech for the groom, consider using a hook to grab your guests’ attention and set the tone for the rest of your speech. For example, a joke, a funny anecdote, or a personal story relevant to your message can all make for great opening lines.

How long should a groom’s speech be?

A groom’s speech should be around three to five minutes long. This will give you enough time to express your gratitude, share your love story, acknowledge the bride, and toast to the future without losing your guests’ attention.

Do I have to be funny in my speech?

No, you don’t have to be funny in your speech – leave that to your best man. If humour is not your forte, it’s okay to skip it and focus on expressing gratitude and love. The most important thing is to be genuine and authentic in your message.

Can I read my speech off a piece of paper?

While it’s ideal to deliver your speech without reading from a piece of paper, if you’re nervous, it’s okay to use notes or cue cards to help you stay on track. Just practice your speech beforehand so that you’re not reading it word for word and can maintain eye contact with your guests.

Should I include embarrassing stories in my speech?

While including embarrassing stories is tempting, it’s best to avoid them. Instead, your speech should be positive and focused on expressing gratitude and love. Stick to heartwarming and positive stories that will create a memorable and meaningful moment for everyone.

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Groom Speech Structure: Write The Perfect Speech

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(*Of course, if you’re looking for more than ‘advice’, check out all the different ways the Speechy team can help you write & deliver a great speech. Or check out our new AI-powered team member, SpeechyAI .)

(Of course, if you’re looking for more than ‘advice’, check out Speechy’s bespoke speechwriting service . We also have a range of excellent speech templates that might be just what you need.)

Never mind ‘how’ you’ll write your speech, worry about ‘when’.

Start soon , ideally two months before the wedding. Do not be tempted to put off writing until you’re hit by divine inspiration (it rarely strikes) and do not get side-tracked by table plans or biscuits.

Don’t underestimate how long it can take to be witty, meaningful, and memorable. Yes, you know your subject rather well (we’re hoping) but even professional comedians can take months to write five minutes of content.

So, lock yourself in a room, turn off your notifications, and get STARTED.

2. The Basic Speech Structure

A speech is not about handing out gifts and it’s not (just) about thanking people. It’s about reminding everyone why they should be celebrating the newlyweds getting hitched. It’s explaining why two sane people have just promised to tolerate each other’s crazy habits and personality quirks for the rest of their lives.

So, forget the old-fashioned etiquette books, the basic structure for a modern groom’s speech is relatively simple…

• Hello, welcome & thank everyone
• Relationship stories and insights to make your guests smile & laugh
• A meaningful tribute to your partner (poignant & unique, not cheesy or cliched!)
• The thank yous (we’ll get to those next)
• Possibly a tribute to the dearly departed 
• A toast that leaves everyone smiling (not bored by how predictable it is)

And that’s it really.

3. Know Your Speech Etiquette

There are plenty of good etiquette guides online but sound the klaxon, they come with a warning. Etiquette guides can seriously damage your speech. They can make you think your groom’s speech has to include a long list of thank-yous and old-fashioned clichés. Resist the urge.

Here’s our no-nonsense guide to speech etiquette –

• Be yourself – just because you’re wearing fancy clothes doesn’t mean you need to use formalities like ‘Ladies and Gentlemen’. Your friends and family want to hear the real you.
• Thank the important people –  Sure, thank everyone for coming but don’t namecheck half the guestlist.
• Remember those actors who win an Oscar and thank their parents, the director, the lighting guy, and their dog? Boring isn’t it? Especially when you don’t get a mention.
• Simply thank both sets of parents, anyone who’s contributed financially (though don’t be explicit about that), the people who have gone beyond the call of duty to help, and any children you may have.
• Don’t thank people like the caterers or anyone who you have paid.
• Don’t give thank-you gifts – Well, feel free to but don’t include the gift-giving as part of the speech. It will put you off your flow and it’s awkward to sit through. Give any gifts earlier or later in the day.
• Be clever – Make the thanks yous feel part of the story you’re telling. If you’re having a festival themed wedding then thank the backstage support and the incredible roadies who have helped.
• Your toast – Don’t feel pressured into toasting the bridesmaids. Certainly, thank them and say how stunning they look (they took three hours getting ready after all!) but these days you can toast anything you want and we encourage you to be personal.
• Why not propose a tequila toast ? Something inclusive, something about love, and something that gets people in the mood to party.

4. Wedding Speech Material

So, other than the speech ‘to dos’ what makes up the bulk of your speech? Well, stories of course…

STORY-HUNTING – Imagine you’re one of those detectives you see on TV (only without the Swedish accent or psychological problems). You have a theory, maybe that you’re marrying someone kind of special. It’s now up to you to prove it.

Retrace your romantic steps (metaphorically not literally, that could take some time) and work out the key bits of evidence.

What moments have been meaningful, funny, or illustrate a point? If you want to reference the fact your partner is a bit ditsy, remember the time they reported her car stolen only to discover they’d parked it round the corner.

GET INSIGHTFUL – Hunt down the things that make you and your partner unique. This is what adds depth, meaning, and humour to your speech. It also stops you from sounding like a generic cliche of a groom.

So, how does your partner put up with you? Are you the husband who can’t open jars? Do you eat your burgers with a knife and fork? It’s time to confess.

And what unique traits does your partner have? The ability to respond to Whatapp messages before they’re actually sent? An encyclopedic knowledge of The Great British Bake Off and its soggy bottoms? A ridiculously long tongue? Whatever it is, make sure you pay tribute to their individual quirks. It says much more than just saying how awesome they look (though it’s essential you say that too!).

5. Find a Theme

Right, this is the important bit.

Your speech is made up of lots of different elements but your job is to bind them all so your speech needs to sound like a story rather than a list of unconnected thoughts.

You need to hook people in from the beginning, establish a theme, and carry that through to an almighty climax.

There are infinite theme ideas but here are a few classics you could consider…

THEME IDEAS BASED ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP

• Love Lessons. What you’ve learnt from each other over the years; the good, the bad and the plain ugly. A theme like this is great for starting with comedic examples and moving on to more profound ones.
• The power of serendipity. This works if luck has played a part in your relationship (even if it was simply that your partner lived within a 20km radius of your online dating search).
• How love changes with time. This is a good concept if you’re getting married at a later stage in life. It can include comedic insights (‘Less podium dancing, more pension haggling’) but conclude with more a meaningful sentiment (‘When you get to your sixties, you know what’s important to you and you can promise things that you only now truly understand.’)
• The international language of love. A great theme if you have an international guest list. Use proverbs and words from their countries of origin to punctuate your speech. Say it in your guest’s native language and then translate. It makes everyone feel included in the speech and also brings something new to the table. There are some great proverbs out there, from Ethiopia’s ‘ Coffee and love taste better when they’re hot’ to India’s ‘It is love that makes the impossible, possible’.

You get the idea.

6. Be Funny

Even if the crux of your speech is emotional and romantic it’s still good to have some humour in there too.

Nobody is expecting you to be a stand-up comedian but try to find the comedy in your reality. Are you and your partner really alike or really different? Do you share a guilty pleasure? Do you have a distinctive style of arguing? These sorts of areas make great speech material.

Whatever you do, resist the Googled gags or cheesy wedding jokes. Instead, check out our how to be funny guide.

7. Be Sweet (Not Sickly)

Firstly, be honest. There’s no point making declarations of love if people don’t recognise the person you’re talking about.

Don’t pretend that your partner is perfect or that you don’t argue over control of the TV remote control. Love them for the crazy nut-job they really are.

Secondly, don’t go OTT. You have to get the balance right between sweet and just showing off. Leave the pet names at home and keep anything overly gushing for the bedroom.

A good trick is simply writing a list of all the little, quirky things you like about your partner a la When Harry Met Sally .

8. Be Different

Try to avoid cliches like ‘ special’ or ‘ the one’ and create new ways of describing love.

One groom said he was attracted to his wife because she looked like ‘ Bridget Bardot dressed up for a night at The Hog’s Head disco’ .

Another groom said his first date with his wife had left him with ‘ the feeling you get after the three course special at The Raj; very happy, completely satisfied but slightly nervous about what’s to come’.

If you’re really stuck, replace a generic cliche with a good, solid quote. Whilst plagiarism and being boring are never acceptable, using quotes is seen as positively inspired.

Check out our favourite Groom Speech Quotes.

9. Keep It Short

Aim for somewhere between seven and nine minutes. And that includes the pauses you leave for the laughter. Jokes are funnier when they’re short and punchy, and senitment is more powerful when it’s succinct.

You may feel you have SOOOOOO much you want to say but the real test is saying it in the least amount of words. It’s kind of like a perverse game of Scrabble.

10. Test it Out

Firstly on yourself. Read the speech out loud and if you find yourself stumbling on the same bit every time, change it.

Then get an audience. It needs to be someone whose advice you value, so don’t ask your mum if you’re going to ignore her.

Deliver it as you would on the wedding day. Leave pauses for the laughter (ironically speakers often talk over the laughter they’ve worked so hard to achieve). Remember to smile. Look at your audience.

And then – be receptive to criticism. If someone doesn’t get a joke, don’t waste your time explaining it as you won’t be able to do that on the day. The point of testing your speech is you still have time to change it.

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How to Write a Short and Simple Groom Speech

The Groom Speech is one of the most important pieces of the wedding ‘jigsaw’.

Get it right and you’ll be a hero in the eyes of your new Bride and leave your guests with big smiles on their faces.

Get it wrong and there could be a big, embarrassing hole in the middle of an otherwise perfect day.

So the pressure’s on and while the Groom speech is not a hard one to pull off, it’s also an easy one to screw up.

But there’s no need to panic! Take a deep breath, think calming thoughts and read my Stress-Free Guide to Writing a Short and Simple Groom Speech .

An Effective Groom Speech is as Simple as ABC

Some Groom speeches are masterpieces of speechwriting - full of touching stories, memorable details and clever jokes.

But the truth is that as long as you include just three essential elements you can deliver a rock-solid Groom speech that ticks all the right boxes.

So here’s my ABC for an effective Groom speech, which tells you exactly what to say, and when to say it…

A is for… Acknowledgements

This is non-negotiable - acknowledging the important people in your life, particularly those who’ve helped with the arrangements for the big day.

Forget to say “thank you” and you’ll not only look ungrateful but your speech could leave a bad taste in the mouth of anyone who felt they deserved a quick mention.

And remember, even if you’ve thanked someone in person - or plan to - nothing can quite replace giving them public recognition in front of the other guests.

”Thank You” Checklist

Here’s a checklist of people you might want to thank:

• The Father of the Bride for his toast to you and the Bride
• Your parents for their support over the years
• The Bride’s parents for:a) bringing up your wonderful wife, andb) for welcoming you into their family
• Your Groomsmen for their help on and before the big day
• The Bridesmaids for the help they’ve given the Bride

”Thank You” Gifts

If you intend to hand out any gifts you can do this as part of the acknowledgements.

Absent Family and Friends

It’s also customary to acknowledge absent family and friends.

This can be a poignant moment so make sure there’s a brief pause to remember important people, before diving into…

B is for… Bride

Once you’ve shown your gratitude by acknowledging all the key wedding players, it’s time to get to the main topic of your speech, which is of course - the Bride!

Yes, the thank you’s are absolutely essential, but they’re really just a polite preamble. It’s the bit where you start to talk fondly about your new wife that your guests are really looking forward to hearing.

Even if you’re the strong, silent type, your wedding day is the one occasion where you get to show your softer side and let a few honest feelings show through.

But don’t worry, it’s dead easy to write a crowd-pleasing Groom speech. Because although the Best Man’s speech, for example, is expected to be funny, all that the Groom’s speech really needs to be is sincere - and a little romantic.

In the spirit of minimalism, here’s a simple template to use if you’re lost for words when it comes to talking about your beautiful Bride:

• Tell the story of how you first met
• Say what you love about her - illustrated with a quick anecdote
• Tell us something about your hopes and plans for your future together

Do this right and you’ll score some serious points with your new wife and have all the guests (well the women at least!) thinking you’re the ultimate romantic hero!

C is for… Cheers!

So you’ve thanked everyone who needs thanking and you’ve made your new Bride swoon with some well-chosen words straight from the heart.

Job done, right? Time to sit down.

Well, not quite.

Wrap it up and end on a high

All good speeches have a clear beginning, middle and an end, and the Groom speech is no exception. You’ve just nailed the beginning and the middle, so let’s wrap things up neatly and end on a high.

Nothing gets a more enthusiastic response than an invitation to drink, and it’s traditional for the Groom’s speech to end with a toast to the Bridesmaids.

In an ultra-minimal Groom speech you could simply thank everyone for listening and immediately propose the toast.

However, it’s nice to acknowledge the next speaker - usually the Best Man - before you sit back down (and hopefully receive a big kiss from your wife).

A simple template for the perfect ending

So, with that in mind, here’s a quick guide to the perfect ending:

• Thank everyone for listening and say it’ll soon be time for the Best Man to speak
• Say a few short words about the Best Man and how much you’re looking forward to his speech
• Raise a toast to the Bridesmaids and hand straight over to the Best Man (or the MC)

So that’s it! You’ve reached the end of my Minimalist Guide.

Hopefully the prospect of writing your Groom speech is now about as stressful as gently raking the sand in your Zen garden whilst listening to an iPod full of whale song.

Now take a deep breath in, hold it for a few seconds, then slowly exhale any remaining worries and fears about your speech.

Just pick up a notepad and your favourite pen, and get writing.

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Someone you love is getting married, and you’ve just been asked to give a speech at the wedding. What an honor! But also, if you’re not used to giving speeches, what a nightmare! Public speaking can be scary , which is why many people prefer to avoid it. But when your bestie asks you to make a speech at his or her wedding, it’s time to rally. But now you’re wondering if you even know how to write a wedding speech! What makes some wedding speeches fun and memorable, and what makes others cringy and fall flat? We’ve got you. We’ve put together the ultimate guide for how to write a wedding speech, focusing on things you definitely should do, things you definitely should NOT do, and then how to deliver your killer wedding speech like a pro.

If you’re wondering how to write a wedding speech, here are a few “Do’s” to keep in mind.

• Start planning early
• Introduce yourself and how you know the bride and groom
• Thanks to hosts, guests, and wedding party; congratulate the couple
• Make it personal
• Think of 3 traits with 3 stories
• Talk about the couple
• Have a beginning, middle, and end
• Consider your audience
• Keep it short and sweet
• It’s okay to be simple and meaningful

1. Start planning early

If you don’t know how to write a wedding speech but the bride just asked you to give one, this is not a time to procrastinate. Public speaking is one of the number one fears many people have, so it’s likely you’ve avoided giving too many public speeches before this. And unless you’re a performer or a veteran improv comedian, you might not do too well winging this one. If you get nervous in front of an audience (as most of us do), the best defense against freezing up when you take the mic is being prepared. 

As soon as you know you’ve been asked to give a speech at the wedding, begin jotting down notes immediately. Whenever you’re inspired by a thought of the couple or remember an anecdote that might be worth retelling, make note of it. This will help to give you a pool of ideas to draw from when you start writing down the speech.

Begin gathering ideas and writing the speech a couple of weeks to a month before the wedding. You’ll need time to edit, fine-tune it, and make it concise. And as wedding showers, bachelorette parties, and other wedding festivities begin, you might find there are entertaining stories from these events you want to add as well. If you want to write it all at once, you can do that too. However, make sure to sleep on it and come back with fresh eyes. You don’t want just “okay,” you want your speech to be heartfelt and meaningful.

You will also want to begin early to give yourself time to practice and rehearse your speech plenty of times.

2. Introduce yourself and how you know the bride and groom

No matter how large or small the wedding is, it’s likely you will not be familiar with many of the guests on one or both sides. And they won’t be familiar with you either. So don’t leave them guessing! 

Make sure when you start to write a wedding speech to introduce yourself and mention how you know the couple. This will help them understand the context of your speech, which will also help it to be more well-received. 

3. Thank hosts, guests, and wedding party; congratulate the couple

It’s also courteous to take this time to thank the hosts and other members of the wedding party for all the hard work that went into the event, and to thank guests for being there to support the newlyweds, especially those who had to travel far. 

It’s also a good time to officially congratulate the newlyweds and offer them your personal well-wishes for their future. It is imperative that you don’t forget this part, because they are the whole reason you’re there and giving a speech!

4. Make it personal

Whether you are the maid of honor, the best man, father of the bride, or just a friend, you were asked to give a speech because of your close connection and relationship with either the bride or groom (or both). 

And since you know your friend as well as you do, you probably have plenty of stories to share; so the next tip for how to write a wedding speech is don’t hesitate to make it personal and share those stories! This will also help guests get to know the other half of the couple they might not know as well or are just meeting for the first time. And those guests who do know them will love hearing some entertaining stories they might not have heard yet.

5. Think of 3 traits with 3 stories

If you’re finding it difficult to come up with anything, a useful approach for how to write a wedding speech is to think of 3 positive defining traits or qualities of the bride or groom and recount three stories or examples that illuminate a time they exhibited these traits. These stories could be comedic, heartwarming, or both. Just make sure they are relevant and entertaining!

6. Talk about the couple

If you’re the maid of honor and have been chatting up the bride for the whole speech, part of how to write a wedding speech is to make sure at some point it circles around to the groom, too, and to the two of them as a couple.  

Recount the time you met him, or how you remember talking about him with the bride in the beginning stages of their relationship. If you don’t know the groom all that well, talk about how good they are as a couple and about how happy he makes her. 

And If you’re not a fan of the groom, this is not the time to air your grievances. Always keep it positive. 

7. Have a beginning, middle, and end

All good speeches have a good flow and take the audience along with it. 

Don’t let your speech fall flat or jumble together in a haphazard confusion of disconnected anecdotes. Give it the structure of an overarching theme, with a beginning, a middle, and an end. 

We are not talking about a novel here, just make sure there is a direction to where the speech is going, and that the destination, end, or sentiment is achieved. It doesn’t need to be Charlie Chaplin in The Great Dictator, but a three-act structure does help keep you grounded. Most people also follow a story easier when there is a clear direction for a story or speech. 

8. Consider your audience

The next thing to keep in mind when considering how to write a wedding speech is to make sure you consider who your audience is. 

This is not the bachelor or bachelorette party. There will be a wide range of people present from children to the elderly, and from close friends of the bride and groom to casual acquaintances and coworkers. Make sure your speech is free of any crudeness that might not be fit for such a varied audience. Also, this isn’t the time to take a shot at any of the religious cermonies.

Be considerate and keep it positive and use language everyone can relate to. 

9. Keep it short and sweet

You want your speech to be meaningful and memorable; but the wedding is not about you, and yours is not the only speech. 

No one ever complains about a speech being too short, but they do begin to grumble if it runs on too long. A good rule of thumb to keep in mind when figuring out how to write a wedding speech is to keep your speech between 2-5 minutes long. Any longer than 5 minutes and you’ll lose everyone to thoughts of cake and whether or not to Cupid Shuffle later. 

10. Add humor

Don’t be afraid to be funny! Another tip for how to write a wedding speech is that if you’ve got a lighthearted, creative, joking side, use it and add humor to your speech! Everyone likes to be entertained. 

This doesn’t mean you should scour the internet for generic wedding-themed jokes, but if you’ve got some good original material to use that helps relate a story about the bride or groom in a comedic way, do it. As long as you’re not making fun of the couple but having fun with them, jokes are great. Or you can even poke fun at yourself to illuminate a higher quality in your bestie. It’s all about making the newlyweds shine. 

If you’re creative and have other talents, use them! If you are musical, bust out your instrument and/or vocal cords and make the speech in the form of a song! Use props, and get the other guests involved! The newlyweds will feel special because you created something for them, and the guests will love joining in the fun.

11. It’s okay to be simple and meaningful

If entertaining isn’t your thing, that’s okay! Don’t force it – just be yourself. It’s okay to be simple and meaningful with your speech. Always keep in mind when you go to write a wedding speech that what’s important is that you are genuine and speak from the heart.

Hopefully, you found these tips for how to write a wedding speech helpful, and can start writing today! And stay tuned to our blog for the next part in this ultimate guide for how to write a wedding speech where we highlight a few things you should definitely avoid.

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How to Write the Perfect Groom Speech

It’s the day you’ve been waiting for all your life. You’ve married your beautiful bride, tucked into the delicious food, and now all that is left to do is relax before the evening reception. Wait, don’t forget about your speech!

For many of us, speaking in front of a room full of people is probably pretty nerve wracking. After the act of actually getting married, giving the Groom speech is probably the second most nerve-wracking thing every man has to face on his wedding day, and it’s easy to see why.

To help you out, we’ve talked to some industry professionals to get their expert advice. Below, we have outlined everything you need to mention in order to make your speech a hit.

The Structure

Thank your guests.

Coming to a wedding is a big expense for everyone involved. Your guests pay for a good amount of petrol (or even flights), a hotel room, and your gift. Therefore, it is important you make sure they know they’re appreciated.

The first way you can do this in your speech is by thanking them. On the other hand, if you make your whole speech relatively short, they can get on with drinking and dancing. Trust me, everyone will appreciate this!

Toast absent friends

Toast to those who couldn’t make it, as well as those who are no longer alive. All guests should be thanked, even ones who are not there. Don’t be afraid to show your sensitive side here. It’s a nice touch and it will definitely be appreciated.

Big up your best man and your ushers

Your best man has been with you every step of the way with this wedding, so thank him for this. Don’t forget your ushers, either. Your boys have done you a big favour by playing a part in your wedding day (even if all they did was roll out of bed and put on a nice suit), so don’t be afraid inject a little bromance in your speech.

And, of course, make some jokes at their expense. After mentioning deceased friends and relatives, this is a good time to lighten the mood. Furthermore, your best man probably mentioned some embarrassing anecdotes about you in his speech, so get him back!

Just remember this speech isn’t all about you and your mates

“But please do this briefly,” says Seb of  Great Speech Writing . “One regular complaint from wedding guests is that they came to listen to stories about the bride and groom, not the groom and his best man. Don’t forget who you are marrying and why you have asked people to come and celebrate.”

Don’t forget everyone else. Tradition dictates you mention the bridesmaids and flower girls as well. They played a massive role in the day and have likely also acted as important support for your new wife. Especially if your wife isn’t speaking, make sure they know they are appreciated.

Others who have lent a helping hand

This is not school speech day; however, you should still acknowledge those who’ve made your day the wonderful occasion it’s been. For example, consider the person who set you up with your spouse, or the venue manager. If you haven’t given them a nod yet, do so here.

Be careful of rattling off a list like an Oscars speech, though. “It is important to thank those people who have helped you on the way to this special day but there is always a risk of simply standing there and reading a list of people to whom you wish to show your appreciation,” says Kevin of  Speeches For You .

Seb of Great Speech Writing agrees. “You don’t want you speech to become a long list of thank yous,” he points out. So just keep it to the really vital people. Everyone else can get a thank you note.

Your new in-laws and your own parents

This is your moment to gain some serious credit with your new wife’s parents, so don’t throw it away. Thank them for all they’ve done. If they paid for the wedding, sing their praises to the rafters. Thank them for raising the woman of your dreams and for accepting you into the family. And, even if they haven’t quite accepted you yet, that doesn’t matter right now! Get your now legally-binding relationship with them off to the right start nevertheless and make them feel appreciated.

When it comes to your mum and dad, only you know what to say. They raised you and, hopefully, have supported you through good times and bad, so make sure they feel the love.

Last, but absolutely never least, your new wife is the star of the show on your wedding day. Therefore, make sure the longest and most heartfelt part of your speech is all about her. It’s cliché, yes, but if you don’t mention how beautiful she is, how lucky you are, and how you’re punching well above your weight with her, you won’t have done your job with your speech.

Then, talk about your relationship in as genuine and real a way as you can muster. If you both have a good sense of humour and you like joking around, let that come through here. But, nothing is worse than a groom who spends his speech reciting bad one-liners he found on the internet.

If you do tell some jokes or a funny story about your new wife, think hard about what tales to go for. Some jokes are best left just between you two. That being said, a couple of funny and endearing stories can go a long way.

Make your speech memorable for all the right reasons  

It’s up to you to break the ice, but keep it simple.

“Weddings always have a large mix of people and not many know one another,” Kevin of Speeches for You says. “You and your wife will probably be the only people who know everyone in the room. Including some shared memories will have guests talking to each other after the meal and will make for a much more pleasant atmosphere in the evening.”

Maybe you’re the type of guy who doesn’t really wear his heart on his sleeve, and for whom saying a lot of cheesy, lovey things during your speech would feel alien. In that case, don’t force it. It’ll feel and look awkward and disingenuous.

Bear in mind that the most important thing during this part of your speech is to stay true to yourself and to represent your relationship honestly and with love, and no one can dictate to you how to do that.

Other things to bear in mind

This part of your day doesn’t have to be scary if you don’t let it be. As long as you’ve written a speech that is authentic to you and your relationship, you really can’t go wrong. Be as funny or as serious as you typically are in your everyday life; forcing either one will make for a boring or robotic speech that will be forgettable or even embarrassing.

Timing is key

When it comes to timing, try to keep it to 5-10 minutes. According to Seb, as much as your guests love that you’re happy and in love, they’re mainly there to party. And, before you think that’s untrue or harsh, remember the last time you sat through speeches at a wedding. As for the toasts, keep it down to two; one to the bridesmaids and one to your new wife. Any more than that and your speech could turn into a drinking game.

And if you are left totally blank? “Just remember to thank the parents, the best man for his help, and the guests for coming, and say how beautiful your wife is,” Seb says. That’ll guarantee you say what needs to be said with as little drama as possible!

So, go ahead and write an amazing speech (or ask for help from Seb or Kevin). Wow your guests and, more importantly, your new spouse. We also have speech writing advice for the Father of the Bride and the Best Man . Good luck.

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• How to Write A Killer Bride or Groom Wedding Speech

Writing a wedding speech can be a daunting task, especially if you’re nervous about speaking in front of a group. But it’s an awesome opportunity to let your nearest and dearest know how much they mean to you and how much you appreciate them celebrating the start of your marriage with you.

Traditionally, brides don’t give speeches. They sit quietly and listen while their dad, the best man and the groom give speeches. Brides were to be seen and not heard. But we’ve had enough of that. If you’re a bride who wants to speak at your own wedding – more power to you! We 100% support a bride being heard on her own wedding day.

Getting ready to write your bride or groom wedding speech? Awesome! We’ve got all the steps you need to write a killer wedding speech that will leave the room laughing, crying and applauding wildly by the time you drop the mic.

Decide on the logistics

Before you get to the nitty-gritty of speech writing, figure out some of the big picture issues. Who is going to be giving the speech? Are you speaking together or separately? If you’re giving two separate speeches, who is going first? When in the night are you giving the speech? How long will the speech be? What’s the tone going to be?

Start your wedding speech with some thank yous

This one is easy! You start your speech by giving a round of thank yous. Thank all of your guests for coming, thank your wedding party for supporting you, thank out-of-towners for making the trek, thank your parents for all their love, thank your new spouse’s parents for welcoming you into the family, thank special people who made the day possible, thank vendors, THANK THEM ALL! Or, y’know, thank who you want to thank.

Mention those who couldn’t be there

This step is optional, but if you’d like, it’s a great time to pay tribute to people who couldn’t be at your wedding. This could be important people who couldn’t physically make it, maybe they are unable to travel or sick. Or this could be people who have passed on that you want to honour on your special day.

Add a short & sweet anecdote to your wedding speech

Here’s the fun part: now you get to gush about your boo! Include a short story about how you met, when you knew you were in love or a funny tidbit from wedding planning. The idea here is that you want to share a cute story, nothing embarrassing. And you’ll want to keep it short, especially if you and your spouse are both sharing little stories. You’ll also want to double check with anyone else giving speeches that you’re not all re-telling the same story.

End with your partner

You made it! You’re at the end of your speech. Now all you have to do is address your partner and cue the waterworks. This is where you let your brand new husband or wife know how happy you are to be married to them, how much today has meant to you or anything you weren’t able to fit into your vows.

Practice makes perfect

Especially if you’re nervous, rehearse your speech. Stand in front of the mirror, ask someone in your wedding party to lend an ear or recite your speech to your dog. And if you’re planning on doing the speech together and splitting up the different sections, you’ll definitely want to practice with your partner. If there are parts of the speech you want to keep as a surprise for the big day, that’s totally fine. Just rehearse the rest together so you know who says what when.

You know what we say – your wedding, your way! So if you’re really nervous about giving your speech in front of so many people, maybe you can give a speech at your rehearsal dinner in front of a smaller audience instead. If you’re scared you’ll be all teary by the end of the speeches, forget the tradition of the couple speaking last and do your speech first. And if the idea of a speech totally terrifies you, skip it all together! You can give out cards to your loved ones or talk to them one on one and let them know how much you appreciate them making your wedding day magical.

Last minute dos & don’ts for writing the best wedding speech ever!

• DO: write it down and don’t try to wing it. Have a paper copy so you’re not frantically trying to find your phone only for it to die when you’re halfway done your speech.
• DON’T: wait until you’re too drunk to give your speech. If you think you’ll be sloshed by 8:00pm, give your speech by 7:00pm.
• DO: feel free to respond to other speeches. If you go last, you can totally improvise a bit and thank you dad for his sweet words or try to defend yourself in the story your best man just told.
• DON’T: hog the mic. If you and your partner are giving the speech together, divide it up so you can both speak equally.
• DO: be courteous of your guests’ time. Especially if you have a lot of speeches planned, try to keep yours short and to the point.
• DON’T: share anything too embarrassing, too intimate or too inside joke-y. Trust us, you’ll regret it when your nana comes up to you later and asks you to explain that story from the time you had a pregnancy scare in Vegas.

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Are you planning to give a speech at your wedding?  For more wedding planning advice, visit our blog . And to learn more about our team of wedding officiants and book an officiant for your wedding, get in touch! 

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10 Heartfelt Joint Bride and Groom Wedding Speech Examples to Inspire You

Discover heartfelt joint bride and groom wedding speech examples that will captivate your guests. Get inspired to create a memorable moment together!

By Juan C Olamendy · Updated: July 8, 2024

Have you ever wondered what could make a wedding speech truly unforgettable? Picture this: the bride and groom standing side by side, sharing their love story, laughter, and heartfelt gratitude in a single, unified voice. Welcome to the enchanting world of joint bride and groom wedding speeches!

In this article, we dive into the magic of these collaborative speeches, exploring why they are becoming a beloved trend and how they can transform your wedding day into an extraordinary experience. By the end, you'll have a treasure trove of examples and tips to craft your own perfect joint speech, ensuring your special day is as memorable as your love story. Ready to make your wedding speech a showstopper? Let's get started!

Joint Bride and Groom Wedding Speech Examples

Introduction.

Weddings are a celebration of love, unity, and the beginning of a new chapter in a couple's life. One of the most memorable moments of a wedding reception is the speeches. Traditionally, the best man, maid of honor, and parents of the couple deliver speeches. However, a growing trend is the joint bride and groom wedding speech. This unique approach allows the couple to share their story together, creating a memorable and heartfelt moment for everyone present.

What is a Joint Wedding Speech?

Definition and significance of a joint wedding speech.

A joint wedding speech is a collaborative effort by the bride and groom to address their guests together. Instead of separate speeches, the couple stands side by side, sharing their thoughts, gratitude, and love. This type of speech highlights the unity and partnership of the newlyweds. It sets the tone for their marriage, emphasizing that they are a team from the very beginning.

Benefits of Delivering a Joint Speech

Delivering a joint speech has several benefits. Firstly, it reduces the pressure on each individual, as they can support each other. Secondly, it allows for a more dynamic and engaging presentation, as the couple can play off each other's energy. Lastly, it provides a unique and memorable experience for the guests, showcasing the couple's bond and shared journey.

Why Give a Joint Speech?

Joint wedding speeches are the best way to start your marriage - together.

Starting your marriage with a joint speech symbolizes unity and partnership. It shows that you are a team, ready to face life's challenges together. By sharing your thoughts and gratitude as a couple, you set a positive tone for your marriage. Your guests will appreciate the heartfelt and personal touch, making your wedding day even more special.

Couple’s Joint Speech Advice - Let Us Help You!

Writing and delivering a joint speech can be daunting, but don't worry, we're here to help! There are plenty of resources available to guide you through the process. For instance, Wedding Ideas and Advice offers valuable tips and inspiration. Additionally, How to Give an Amazing Wedding Speech provides practical advice on delivering a memorable speech. With the right guidance, you can create a speech that reflects your unique love story.

How to Write a Joint Wedding Speech

Our top tips and tricks for writing a joint wedding speech, know your etiquette.

Understanding wedding speech etiquette is crucial. Start by acknowledging the key people in your lives, such as parents, bridal party, and guests. Avoid controversial topics and keep the tone positive and respectful. For more detailed advice, check out Order of Wedding Speeches .

Gather Your Content

Begin by brainstorming together. Reflect on your relationship, memorable moments, and the journey that led you to this day. Incorporate anecdotes, quotes, and heartfelt messages. For inspiration, Good Quotes for Wedding Toasts can be a great resource.

Joint Wedding Speech Examples

Here are a few examples to get you started:

Example 1: "Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for being here today. We are overwhelmed with joy and gratitude. Our journey together has been filled with love, laughter, and countless memories. We are excited to start this new chapter as husband and wife, and we couldn't have asked for a better group of people to share it with."

Example 2: "We want to take a moment to thank our families and friends for their unwavering support. Your love and encouragement have been our guiding light. Today, we stand here not just as a couple, but as a team, ready to face the future together. Cheers to love, laughter, and happily ever after!"

Joint Wedding Speech Template

Here's a simple template to help you structure your speech:

Introduction:

• Greet your guests and express your gratitude for their presence.

Acknowledgments:

• Thank your parents, bridal party, and anyone who played a significant role in your lives.

Personal Stories:

• Share anecdotes and memorable moments from your relationship.

Future Together:

• Express your excitement for the future and your commitment to each other.
• End with a heartfelt message and a toast to your guests.

How to Write a Joint Couple Speech

Writing a joint couple speech involves collaboration and communication. Start by discussing your ideas and deciding on the key points you want to cover. Divide the speech into sections, with each person taking turns to speak. Practice together to ensure a smooth and cohesive delivery. Remember, the goal is to create a speech that reflects your unique love story.

How to Deliver a Joint Couple Speech

Delivering a joint speech requires practice and coordination. Stand close to each other and maintain eye contact with your guests. Take turns speaking, and support each other throughout the speech. Speak clearly and at a steady pace. If you feel nervous, take a deep breath and remember that you are sharing this moment with your partner. For more tips, check out Tips for Writing a Next-Level Wedding Toast .

Joint Speech Etiquette

Expressing gratitude is a crucial part of your speech. Start by thanking your parents for their love and support. Acknowledge the bridal party for their help and friendship. Thank your guests for being part of your special day. Make your thank yous personal and heartfelt, showing your appreciation for each person's role in your lives.

Length of a Couple's Joint Wedding Speech

A joint wedding speech should be concise and engaging. Aim for a length of 5-7 minutes. This allows you to cover all the important points without losing your audience's attention. Practice your speech to ensure it fits within this timeframe. Remember, it's better to leave your guests wanting more than to overstay your welcome.

How Should a Couple Propose a Toast to the Dearly Departed?

Honoring the memory of loved ones who have passed away is a touching gesture. Keep this part of your speech brief and respectful. You can say something like, "We would like to take a moment to remember those who are no longer with us. Their love and guidance continue to inspire us every day. Let's raise a glass in their honor." This acknowledges their presence in spirit without overshadowing the celebration.

Who Should The Newlyweds Toast?

As newlyweds, you should toast to the people who have supported and loved you throughout your journey. Start with your parents, acknowledging their love and guidance. Toast to your bridal party for their friendship and support. Finally, toast to your guests for sharing this special day with you. Make each toast personal and heartfelt, showing your appreciation for their presence in your lives.

Speech Do's and Don'ts

Speech do's, keep the joint speech a surprise.

Keeping your joint speech a surprise adds an element of excitement and anticipation. Your guests will be delighted by the unexpected twist. It also allows you to create a more impactful and memorable moment.

Make the Thank Yous Meaningful

When expressing gratitude, be specific and personal. Instead of generic thank yous, mention specific actions or qualities that you appreciate. This makes your thank yous more meaningful and heartfelt.

Talk Slower Than Feels Natural

Nervousness can cause you to speak faster than usual. Make a conscious effort to slow down. This ensures that your audience can understand and appreciate your words. It also gives you time to think and stay composed.

Speech Don'ts

Don't thank the caterers, the venue, people who have travelled far etc.

While it's important to acknowledge everyone's efforts, avoid turning your speech into a long list of thank yous. Focus on the key people in your lives. You can thank the caterers, venue, and other service providers privately.

Don't Resort to Clichés

Avoid overused phrases and clichés. Instead, focus on personal stories and genuine emotions. This makes your speech more unique and memorable.

Don't Talk Over Laughter

If your audience laughs or reacts to something you say, pause and let them enjoy the moment. Talking over laughter can make it difficult for your guests to hear and appreciate your speech. Take your time and enjoy the interaction with your audience.

How to Overcome Fear and Get Better at Public Speaking for A Wedding

Public speaking can be intimidating, but with practice and preparation, you can overcome your fears. Start by practicing your speech in front of a mirror or with a trusted friend. Focus on your breathing and maintain a steady pace. Visualize yourself delivering the speech confidently. Remember, your guests are there to support you and celebrate your love. For more tips, check out How to Give an Amazing Wedding Speech .

FAQs on Joint Bride and Groom Wedding Speech

What do you say in a bride and groom wedding speech.

In a bride and groom wedding speech, express your gratitude to your guests, share personal stories, and acknowledge the support of your loved ones. Highlight your journey together and your excitement for the future. End with a heartfelt message and a toast.

How to write a combined wedding speech?

To write a combined wedding speech, start by brainstorming together. Divide the speech into sections, with each person taking turns to speak. Incorporate personal stories, thank yous, and a message about your future together. Practice together to ensure a smooth delivery.

What is a joint wedding speech by the bride and groom?

A joint wedding speech by the bride and groom is a collaborative effort where the couple addresses their guests together. They share their thoughts, gratitude, and love, highlighting their unity and partnership.

What is the best opening line for a wedding speech?

The best opening line for a wedding speech is one that grabs your audience's attention and sets a positive tone. For example, "Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for being here today to celebrate our love and commitment."

How far in advance should we start working on our wedding toasts?

Start working on your wedding toasts at least a few months in advance. This gives you ample time to brainstorm, write, and practice your speech. It also allows for any revisions or adjustments.

How long should a joint wedding toast be?

A joint wedding toast should be concise and engaging, ideally lasting 5-7 minutes. This allows you to cover all the important points without losing your audience's attention.

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Joint bride and groom wedding speech examples showcase the beauty of unity and partnership in a couple's journey. By delivering a speech together, the bride and groom can share their unique love story, express gratitude, and create a heartfelt moment for their guests. This collaborative approach not only highlights their bond but also sets a memorable tone for their married life. Key takeaways include the importance of preparation, personal anecdotes, and a balanced delivery to ensure both voices are heard.

Incorporating humor, sincerity, and mutual appreciation can make the speech truly special. Remember, the goal is to reflect your shared journey and the love you have for each other. By following these insights, couples can craft a speech that resonates with their guests and leaves a lasting impression. Ultimately, a joint wedding speech is a beautiful way to start your new chapter together, hand in hand.

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26 Wedding Speech Examples

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September 6, 2024

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Hi, Friend!   Jen Glantz here. I’m a bestselling author, the first ever bridesmaid for hire and have written over 1000 wedding speeches for people all around the world! Let’s dive into some wedding speech examples to get you inspired for your own!

Welcome to the ultimate guide for crafting the perfect wedding speech! We’ve got you covered with 26 wedding speech examples that’ll have everyone raising their glasses. From heartfelt anecdotes to clever quips, we’ll walk you through everything you need to know to deliver a toast that’ll be remembered long after the last dance.

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TL;DR: Key Takeaways for Memorable Wedding Speeches

• Tailor your speech to the couple and the audience
• Balance humor with sincerity
• Keep it concise (3-5 minutes is ideal)
• Practice your delivery
• Include personal anecdotes and specific memories
• Be mindful of cultural sensitivities
• Consider incorporating multimedia elements
• Express gratitude and well-wishes
• Don’t be afraid to show emotion
• End with a heartfelt toast

The Importance of a Wedding speech

A wedding speech is a cherished tradition that allows loved ones to express their joy, share meaningful memories, and offer heartfelt wishes to the newlyweds, creating a lasting emotional impact on the couple and guests alike. Beyond its sentimental value, a well-crafted wedding speech has the power to set the tone for the celebration, bringing laughter, tears, and a sense of unity to the gathering, while also providing a beautiful keepsake for the couple to treasure for years to come.

Purpose and Audience

Giving a wedding speech can be scarier than walking down the aisle in six-inch heels. But here’s the secret sauce: know your purpose and your audience. Are you the best man trying to roast the groom without making his new in-laws faint? Or the maid of honor aiming to make everyone cry (in a good way, of course)? Your role sets the tone. And as for the audience, read the room! If Aunt Edna’s pearl-clutching at your mildest joke, maybe dial back the stand-up routine.

Structure and Content

Structure is your friend. Think of your speech like a sandwich: a tasty intro to grab attention, a meaty middle filled with juicy stories and heartfelt moments, and a satisfying conclusion that’ll leave everyone feeling warm and fuzzy. And please, don’t just Google “funny wedding jokes” and call it a day. Your speech should be as unique as the couple’s first dance song.

Length and Delivery

Nobody has ever complained that a wedding speech was too short. Aim for the sweet spot of 3-5 minutes. Any longer and you risk losing your audience to the siren call of the open bar. As for delivery, channel your inner Meryl Streep (or The Rock, if that’s more your style). Practice in front of a mirror, your cat, or that judgmental houseplant. And make eye contact! Nothing says “I care” like staring at your shoes for five minutes straight.

Cultural Sensitivity

If you’re at a multicultural wedding, think of yourself as a cultural diplomat in a fancy outfit. Be aware of traditions! What’s hilarious in one culture might be more offensive than pineapple on pizza in another. If you’re not sure, ask! The couple, their families, or even that know-it-all cousin who studied abroad for a semester. Better safe than sorry.

Personalization

Your speech should be as unique as the couple’s love story. Ditch the generic templates and dig deep into your memory bank.

Maid of Honor Speech Example – Sentimental

Emma, my incredible best friend and beautiful bride. When we first met in high school, bonding over our shared love of terrible rom-coms and even worse dance moves, I never imagined I’d be standing here today, watching you marry the love of your life. But here we are, and I couldn’t be happier.

Over the years, you’ve been my rock, my confidante, and my partner in crime. You’ve seen me through my best and worst moments, always with a kind word and a warm hug. And when you met Jake, I saw a light in your eyes that I’d never seen before. I knew he was the one for you.

Jake, you’re not just gaining a wife today, but a best friend, a fierce advocate, and a karaoke partner for life. Take care of our girl, and know that you’re getting one of the best people I’ve ever had the privilege of knowing.

Emma and Jake, may your love continue to grow, may your laughter never fade, and may your life together be as beautiful as the love you share. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness, adventure, and terrible dance moves. Cheers to the happy couple!

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Maid of Honor Speech Example – Humorous

Well, folks, as Emma’s maid of honor, I’m contractually obligated to embarrass her in front of all her loved ones. Don’t worry, Emma, I’ll keep it PG-13… mostly.

First off, let’s talk about Emma’s infamous “cooking” phase in college. Did you know that she once set off the fire alarm trying to boil water? Jake, I hope you’ve got the local pizza place on speed dial. And let’s not forget the time she decided to give herself a haircut the night before a big job interview. Spoiler alert: it didn’t go well, but she got the job anyway. That’s our Emma – failing upwards with style!

But for all her questionable life choices, Emma’s made one brilliant decision today – marrying Jake. Jake, you’re getting a woman who can turn any situation into an adventure, even if that adventure involves explaining to the fire department why the smoke alarm is going off… again.

Emma, you’re my best friend, my partner in crime, and now, officially, someone else’s problem. Just kidding! Jake, take care of our girl. And remember, if she ever offers to cook you a romantic dinner, I’ve left the number for poison control under your plate. To the happy couple!

Wedding Vows Example – Sentimental (Bride’s Perspective)

David, my love, my best friend, my soulmate. As I stand here before you, I am overwhelmed with emotion and gratitude for the journey that has led us to this moment.

From our first awkward date at that tiny coffee shop, to our late-night talks about our dreams and fears, to the day you proposed under a sky full of stars, every moment with you has been a gift. You’ve taught me the true meaning of partnership, of unconditional love, and of finding home in another person.

I vow to stand by your side through all of life’s adventures, to support your dreams as fiercely as you’ve supported mine, and to love you with every fiber of my being. I promise to be your biggest cheerleader, your trusted confidante, and your partner in all things.

I vow to face life’s challenges with you hand in hand, to celebrate our joys and weather our sorrows together. David, I give you my heart, my trust, and my future. I love you today, tomorrow, and always.

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Wedding Vows Example – Humorous (Groom’s Perspective)

Jessica, my darling, my better three-quarters (let’s be honest here). I stand before you today, ready to embark on the craziest adventure of our lives – marriage.

I vow to love you unconditionally, even when you insist on watching rom-coms for the millionth time, or when you “borrow” my favorite sweatshirt and it mysteriously disappears into the black hole that is your closet.

I promise to be your partner in crime, whether we’re planning our next vacation or trying to figure out how to assemble Ikea furniture without divorcing. I vow to always kill the spiders, open the tight jar lids, and pretend to remember all the names of your cousins at family reunions.

I promise to love you through bad hair days, pizza-for-breakfast days, and “I-have-nothing-to-wear” days. Jessica, I choose you to be my wife, my best friend, and the person I’ll blame when the WiFi isn’t working. Here’s to a lifetime of laughter, love, and trying to figure out what’s for dinner. I love you, even more than I love pizza – and that’s saying something!

Best Man Speech Example – Sentimental

John, my best friend, my brother in all but blood. Standing here today, watching you marry the love of your life, Sarah, fills me with an indescribable joy.

From our childhood adventures in your backyard treehouse to our college shenanigans and beyond, you’ve been a constant in my life, always there with a laugh, a helping hand, or a word of encouragement when I needed it most.

Sarah, from the moment John met you, I saw a change in him. He became happier, more driven, and even started doing his own laundry – a miracle if I’ve ever seen one. You bring out the best in him, and for that, I’ll be forever grateful.

To John and Sarah, may your love story continue to unfold with the same magic that brought you together. May your home be filled with laughter, your hearts with love, and your lives with endless adventure. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness for two of the most deserving people I know. Cheers!

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Best Man Speech Example – Humorous

Ladies and gentlemen, for those who don’t know me, I’m Mike, John’s best man and long-suffering friend. I’ve known John since we were kids, and I can honestly say that Sarah is the best thing that’s ever happened to him – apart from me, of course.

John, buddy, I never thought I’d see the day when you’d willingly commit to anything other than your fantasy football league. Yet here we are, and I couldn’t be prouder. Sarah, you truly are a saint for taking on this project of a man. I hope you know what you’re getting into – his idea of cooking is microwaving leftover pizza, and he still thinks axe body spray is an acceptable substitute for a shower.

But in all seriousness, John, you’ve been my best friend through thick and thin. From covering for me when I snuck out in high school to being my wingman at bars (albeit a terrible one), you’ve always had my back. Sarah, thank you for making my best friend the happiest I’ve ever seen him. You two are perfect together, like peanut butter and jelly, or in John’s case, like pizza and more pizza.

To the happy couple! May your love be as endless as John’s appetite and as strong as Sarah’s patience. Cheers!

Wedding Officiant Speech Example – Sentimental

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to witness and celebrate the union of Emily and Michael, two souls brought together by love and bound by their commitment to each other.

Emily and Michael, your journey to this moment is a testament to the power of love. From your first chance encounter at a local coffee shop, to your first date where you talked until the restaurant closed, to this very moment – your love has grown, deepened, and flourished.

Today, you stand before your friends and family, ready to declare your love and commitment to one another. Marriage is a sacred bond, a promise to love, support, and cherish each other through all of life’s joys and challenges. It is a journey you embark on together, hand in hand, heart to heart.

As you exchange your vows and rings, remember that these are symbols of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver – for each is the giver and each is the receiver.

May your love continue to grow stronger with each passing day, and may your union be blessed with happiness, understanding, and compassion. Emily and Michael, it is my honor to officiate your wedding and to be the first to present you as a married couple.

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Wedding Officiant Speech Example – Humorous

Friends, family, and those who got dragged here against their will, we are gathered here today to witness the voluntary imprisonment… I mean, the joyous union of Alex and Jamie.

Now, I’ve known Alex for years, and I can confidently say that Jamie is the best decision Alex has ever made. And that’s including the time Alex decided to get that “No Ragrets” tattoo – which, ironically, they immediately regretted.

Marriage, my friends, is like a walk in the park. Jurassic Park, that is. It’s exciting, sometimes scary, and occasionally, you might need to outrun a T-Rex. But with the right partner by your side, even facing down prehistoric predators can be an adventure.

Alex and Jamie, as you embark on this wild journey called marriage, remember these words of wisdom: Always say “I love you,” never go to bed angry, and most importantly, agree on which way the toilet paper roll should go. Trust me, it’s the little things that count.

By the power vested in me by a surprisingly easy online ordination process, I now pronounce you married. You may now kiss your partner and seal your fate… I mean, your love. Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you the newly married couple! May your marriage be long, happy, and full of laughter – you’re going to need it!

Father of the Bride Speech Example – Sentimental

My dearest Olivia, my little girl. It seems like only yesterday I was teaching you how to ride a bike, and now here you are, radiant in white, marrying the love of your life.

As I look at you today, I’m filled with an overwhelming sense of pride and love. You’ve grown into an incredible woman – kind, intelligent, and strong. I’ve watched you overcome challenges, achieve your dreams, and now, find a love that makes your eyes light up in a way I’ve never seen before.

Daniel, from the first time Olivia brought you home, I knew you were special. The way you look at her, the way you support her dreams, and the way you’ve become a part of our family – I couldn’t have hoped for a better partner for my daughter.

Olivia and Daniel, as you start this new chapter of your lives together, remember that love is both a gift and a responsibility. Cherish each other, support each other’s dreams, and never forget to laugh together.

To my daughter and new son-in-law, may your love continue to grow stronger with each passing day. May your home be filled with laughter, your hearts with love, and your lives with endless joy. I love you both. Cheers to the happy couple!

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Father of the Bride Speech Example – Humorous

Ladies and gentlemen, for those who don’t know me, I’m Olivia’s dad, also known as the guy who’s about to be significantly poorer after today. But hey, who needs retirement anyway?

Olivia, my darling daughter, I’ve been dreading this day since you were born – not because I’m losing you, but because I knew I’d have to make a speech in front of all these people. You couldn’t have just eloped, could you?

I still remember the day you were born. I held you in my arms and thought, “I’m going to have to pay for a wedding someday.” Well, that day has come, and let me tell you, weddings were a lot cheaper 25 years ago.

Daniel, when Olivia first brought you home, I had my doubts. But then I saw how happy you make her, and I realized something important – I can finally cancel her phone plan and car insurance.

In all seriousness, Daniel, you’re the son I never had, mainly because your mother-in-law said one kid was enough. Welcome to the family, son. Remember, our family motto is “We put the ‘fun’ in dysfunctional.”

To Olivia and Daniel, may your love be as strong as the WiFi signal you’ll fight over, and may your marriage be longer than the line for the open bar tonight. Cheers!

Father of the Groom Speech Example – Sentimental

My son, Ethan, and my new daughter-in-law, Sophie. As I stand here today, my heart is full of joy and pride.

Ethan, from the moment you were born, you’ve been a source of endless happiness in our lives. I’ve watched you grow from a curious little boy into the remarkable man you are today. Your kindness, your integrity, and your sense of humor have always made me proud to be your father.

Sophie, from the first time Ethan brought you home, you’ve been a ray of sunshine in our family. The way you love our son, the way you’ve embraced our family as your own – we couldn’t have wished for a more wonderful addition to our family.

Ethan and Sophie, as you begin this new chapter of your lives together, remember that marriage is a partnership. It’s about supporting each other’s dreams, facing challenges together, and finding joy in the simple moments you share.

May your love continue to grow stronger with each passing day. May your home be filled with laughter, your hearts with love, and your lives with countless beautiful memories. We love you both dearly. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness!

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Father of the Groom Speech Example – Humorous

Ladies and gentlemen, for those who don’t know me, I’m Ethan’s dad. I’m the guy who taught him everything he knows – except for all the things his mother insisted I was doing wrong.

Ethan, son, I’ve been waiting for this day for a long time. Not because I’m particularly sentimental, but because I’ve been paying for your car insurance for far too long. Sophie, he’s your responsibility now. No takebacks!

I still remember when Ethan was a little boy, he used to say he wanted to be just like me when he grew up. Well, son, you’ve succeeded – you’re also losing your hair and marrying way out of your league.

Sophie, when Ethan first told us about you, we were thrilled. Not just because you make him happy, but because we finally had hope that someone would teach him how to properly load a dishwasher.

In all seriousness, Ethan and Sophie, you two are perfect for each other. You complement each other like peanut butter and jelly, or in Ethan’s case, like pizza and more pizza. Your mother and I couldn’t be happier to welcome you into our family, Sophie.

To the happy couple! May your love be as strong as Ethan’s Wi-Fi password and may your marriage be longer than the line at the open bar tonight. Cheers!

Mother of the Bride Speech Example – Sentimental

My darling Sophia, my beautiful daughter. As I look at you today, resplendent in white, my heart overflows with love and pride.

From the moment I held you in my arms, I knew you were destined for greatness. I’ve watched you grow from a curious little girl into the remarkable woman you are today. Your kindness, your determination, and your infectious laughter have been a constant joy in our lives.

Thomas, from the first time Sophia brought you home, I saw the way her eyes lit up around you. You’ve brought so much happiness into her life, and by extension, into ours. Your gentleness, your humor, and the way you support Sophia in all her endeavors make you the perfect partner for our daughter.

Sophia and Thomas, as you embark on this beautiful journey together, remember that marriage is a partnership built on love, trust, and mutual respect. Support each other’s dreams, face challenges hand in hand, and never forget to find joy in the little moments you share.

May your love continue to grow deeper and stronger with each passing day. May your home be filled with laughter, your hearts with love, and your lives with countless beautiful memories. We love you both dearly. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness!

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Mother of the Bride Speech Example – Humorous

Ladies and gentlemen, for those who don’t know me, I’m Sophia’s mom. I’m the one who taught her everything she knows – except for how to pick up her clothes from the floor. Sorry about that, Thomas.

Sophia, my darling daughter, I’ve been preparing for this day since you were born. Not because I’m particularly sentimental, but because I’ve been dreaming of the day I could finally turn your bedroom into my personal yoga studio.

I still remember when Sophia was a little girl, she used to say she wanted to be just like me when she grew up. Well, sweetheart, you’ve succeeded – you’re also marrying someone who can’t load a dishwasher properly. It must be genetic.

Thomas, when Sophia first told us about you, we were thrilled. Not just because you make her happy, but because we finally had hope that someone would teach her how to cook something other than microwaved ramen.

In all seriousness, Sophia and Thomas, you two are perfect for each other. You complement each other like wine and cheese, or in Sophia’s case, like Netflix and procrastination. Thomas, we couldn’t be happier to welcome you into our family.

To the happy couple! May your love be as endless as Sophia’s shoe collection and may your marriage be stronger than the coffee you’ll need to survive her morning crankiness. Cheers!

Mother of the Groom Speech Example – Sentimental

My dear son, Nathan, and my new daughter-in-law, Emma. Today, as I watch you join your lives together, my heart is filled with an indescribable joy.

Nathan, from the moment you were born, you’ve been the light of our lives. I’ve watched you grow from a mischievous little boy into the compassionate, intelligent, and kind-hearted man you are today. Your sense of humor, your dedication, and your ability to see the best in others have always made me proud to be your mother.

Emma, from the first time Nathan introduced you to us, I knew you were special. The way you love our son, the way you’ve embraced our family as your own – we couldn’t have wished for a more wonderful addition to our family. Your kindness, your strength, and your infectious smile have brought so much joy into Nathan’s life and ours.

Nathan and Emma, as you begin this new chapter of your lives together, remember that marriage is a beautiful journey of love, understanding, and growth. Support each other’s dreams, face life’s challenges together, and always find reasons to laugh together.

May your love continue to deepen with each passing day. May your home be filled with warmth, your hearts with love, and your lives with countless happy memories. We love you both dearly. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness and love!

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Mother of the Groom Speech Example – Humorous

Good evening, everyone. For those who don’t know me, I’m Nathan’s mom. I’m the one who spent 18 years trying to teach him basic life skills, most of which I’m pretty sure he’s already forgotten. Emma, good luck with that.

Nathan, my darling son, I’ve been waiting for this day for a long time. Not because I’m eager to see you married off, but because I’m excited to finally have someone else to call when you can’t figure out how to use the washing machine.

I still remember when Nathan was a little boy, he used to say he wanted to be a superhero when he grew up. Well, son, you’ve sort of succeeded – you’re marrying Emma, and that definitely requires super-human patience.

Emma, when Nathan first told us about you, we were overjoyed. Not just because you make him happy, but because we finally had hope that someone would teach him that vegetables are not, in fact, the enemy.

In all seriousness, Nathan and Emma, you two are perfect for each other. You complement each other like peanut butter and jelly, or in Nathan’s case, like video games and “just five more minutes, Mom!” Emma, we couldn’t be happier to welcome you into our family.

To the happy couple! May your love be as strong as Nathan’s ability to sleep through multiple alarms, and may your marriage be filled with more laughter than the time Nathan tried to cook a turkey for Thanksgiving. Cheers!

Brother of the Bride Speech Example – Sentimental

My dear sister, Olivia, and my new brother-in-law, Jack. It’s an honor to stand here today and celebrate your love.

Liv, as your big brother, I’ve had the privilege of watching you grow from an annoying little sister (sorry, but it’s true) into the amazing woman you are today. Your kindness, your determination, and your ability to light up any room have always inspired me.

I remember the day you told me about Jack. Your eyes sparkled in a way I’d never seen before, and I knew he must be someone special. Jack, from the moment you became a part of our lives, I’ve seen how happy you make my sister. Your loyalty, your sense of humor, and the way you support Olivia in all her dreams make you the perfect partner for her.

Olivia and Jack, as you start this new chapter of your lives together, remember that marriage is a partnership. It’s about supporting each other, laughing together, and facing life’s challenges hand in hand.

May your love continue to grow stronger with each passing day. May your home be filled with laughter, your hearts with love, and your lives with endless adventures. I love you both. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness!

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Brother of the Bride Speech Example – Humorous

Ladies and gentlemen, for those who don’t know me, I’m Olivia’s brother, also known as the guy who’s been protecting her from spiders and bad boyfriends for the past 28 years. Looks like I can retire from at least one of those jobs now, Jack.

Liv, my dear sister, I’ve been preparing for this speech since the day you were born. Not because I’m particularly eloquent, but because I’ve been gathering embarrassing stories about you for nearly three decades. Don’t worry, I’ll only share the PG-rated ones… maybe.

I still remember when Olivia was five, she declared she was going to marry her pet goldfish. Well, sis, I’m glad to see your taste in life partners has improved significantly. No offense to Bubbles the goldfish, may he rest in peace.

Jack, when Olivia first told us about you, we were thrilled. Not just because you make her happy, but because we finally had someone who could reach the top shelf in the kitchen. Welcome to the family, man. Your official duties include killing spiders, opening tight jars, and pretending to laugh at dad’s jokes.

In all seriousness, Olivia and Jack, you two are perfect for each other. You complement each other like coffee and donuts, or in Olivia’s case, like online shopping and buyer’s remorse.

To the happy couple! May your love be as strong as Olivia’s WiFi password and may your marriage be longer than the list of TV series she’s binge-watched. Cheers!

Brother of the Groom Speech Example – Sentimental

My brother, Ethan, and my new sister-in-law, Madison. It’s an honor and a joy to stand here today and celebrate your love.

Ethan, as your little brother, I’ve always looked up to you. From teaching me how to ride a bike to showing me how to tie a tie, you’ve been my role model and my best friend. Your kindness, your integrity, and your ability to make everyone around you feel valued have always inspired me.

I remember the day you told me about Madison. The way your face lit up when you spoke about her, I knew she was someone special. Madison, from the moment you became a part of our lives, I’ve seen how you bring out the best in my brother. Your warmth, your intelligence, and the way you support Ethan in all his endeavors make you the perfect partner for him.

Ethan and Madison, as you embark on this new chapter of your lives together, remember that marriage is a beautiful journey of love and partnership. It’s about supporting each other’s dreams, facing challenges together, and finding joy in the simple moments you share.

May your love continue to grow deeper and stronger with each passing day. May your home be filled with laughter, your hearts with love, and your lives with countless beautiful memories. I love you both. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness!

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Brother of the Groom Speech Example – Humorous

Good evening, everyone. For those who don’t know me, I’m Ethan’s younger, funnier, and let’s face it, better-looking brother. I’m also the reason Ethan learned how to share his toys at an early age. You’re welcome, Madison.

Ethan, my dear brother, I’ve been waiting for this day for a long time. Not because I’m particularly sentimental, but because I finally get to embarrass you in front of all your friends and family. It’s payback time for all those noogies and wedgies, bro.

I still remember when Ethan was ten, he swore he’d never get married because girls had “cooties.” Well, brother, I’m glad to see you’ve finally realized that cooties aren’t real. Or maybe Madison just has really good cootie repellent.

Madison, when Ethan first told us about you, we were thrilled. Not just because you make him happy, but because we finally had hope that someone would teach him that socks don’t belong on the living room floor. Welcome to the family! Your official duties include deciphering Ethan’s handwriting and explaining to him that “fine” never actually means fine.

In all seriousness, Ethan and Madison, you two are perfect for each other. You complement each other like peanut butter and jelly, or in Ethan’s case, like dad jokes and eye rolls.

To the happy couple! May your love be as strong as Ethan’s morning breath and may your marriage be filled with more laughter than the time Ethan tried to give himself a haircut. Cheers!

Sister of the Bride Speech Example – Sentimental

My beloved sister, Emily, and my new brother-in-law, Alex. It’s an honor to stand here today and celebrate your love.

Em, as your big sister, I’ve had the joy of watching you grow from a feisty little girl into the incredible woman you are today. Your compassion, your strength, and your ability to find joy in the smallest things have always inspired me.

I remember the day you told me about Alex. Your eyes sparkled with a happiness I’d never seen before, and I knew he must be someone truly special. Alex, from the moment you became a part of our lives, I’ve seen how you bring out the best in my sister. Your kindness, your sense of humor, and the way you support Emily in all her dreams make you the perfect partner for her.

Emily and Alex, as you begin this new chapter of your lives together, remember that marriage is a beautiful journey of love, growth, and partnership. It’s about supporting each other, laughing together, and facing life’s adventures hand in hand.

May your love continue to deepen with each passing day. May your home be filled with warmth, your hearts with love, and your lives with endless beautiful moments. I love you both dearly. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness!

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Sister of the Bride Speech Example – Humorous

Hello everyone! For those who don’t know me, I’m Emily’s sister, also known as the one who taught her everything she knows about fashion, makeup, and how to sweet-talk dad into extending her curfew. You’re welcome, Alex.

Em, my dear sister, I’ve been preparing for this speech since the day you were born. Not because I’m a great public speaker, but because I’ve been collecting embarrassing stories about you for the past 25 years. Don’t worry, I’ll only share the ones that won’t make Grandma faint.

I still remember when Emily was seven, she announced she was going to marry her favorite boy band member. Well, sis, I’m glad to see your taste in men has improved. No offense to Justin Timberlake, but I think Alex is a much better choice.

Alex, when Emily first told us about you, we were thrilled. Not just because you make her happy, but because we finally had someone who could reach the top shelf in the kitchen without a stepladder. Welcome to the family! Your official duties include killing spiders, opening tight jars, and pretending to be interested when Emily talks about her latest Netflix obsession.

In all seriousness, Emily and Alex, you two are perfect for each other. You complement each other like wine and cheese, or in Emily’s case, like online shopping and next-day delivery.

To the happy couple! May your love be as strong as Emily’s obsession with taking selfies, and may your marriage be filled with more joy than the time Emily finally learned how to parallel park. Cheers!

Sister of the Groom Speech Example – Sentimental

My dear brother, Michael, and my new sister-in-law, Sarah. It’s a privilege to stand here today and celebrate your love.

Mike, as your little sister, I’ve always looked up to you. From protecting me from imaginary monsters under the bed to being my confidant during tough times, you’ve been my hero and my best friend. Your kindness, your perseverance, and your ability to make everyone around you feel valued have always inspired me.

I remember the day you told me about Sarah. The way your eyes lit up when you spoke about her, I knew she was the one. Sarah, from the moment you became a part of our lives, I’ve seen how you bring out the best in my brother. Your warmth, your intelligence, and the way you support Michael in all his endeavors make you the perfect partner for him.

Michael and Sarah, as you start this new chapter of your lives together, remember that marriage is a beautiful journey of love and partnership. It’s about supporting each other’s dreams, facing challenges together, and finding joy in the simple moments you share.

May your love continue to grow stronger with each passing day. May your home be filled with laughter, your hearts with love, and your lives with countless beautiful memories. I love you both. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness!

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Sister of the Groom Speech Example – Humorous

Good evening, everyone! For those who don’t know me, I’m Michael’s sister, also known as the one who taught him everything he knows about style, cooking, and how to charm his way out of trouble. You’re welcome, Sarah.

Mike, my dear brother, I’ve been waiting for this day for a long time. Not because I’m particularly sentimental, but because I finally get to reveal all your secrets in front of your friends and family. Don’t worry, I’ll keep it PG… mostly.

I still remember when Michael was eight, he declared he’d never get married because it would interfere with his career as a professional video game player. Well, bro, I’m glad to see you’ve finally realized that there’s more to life than beating your high score. Although, Sarah, I should warn you – he still gets pretty excited about new game releases.

Sarah, when Michael first told us about you, we were thrilled. Not just because you make him happy, but because we finally had hope that someone would teach him that the laundry basket is not, in fact, an optional piece of furniture. Welcome to the family! Your official duties include deciphering Michael’s grocery lists and explaining to him that “I’m fine” never actually means fine.

In all seriousness, Michael and Sarah, you two are perfect for each other. You complement each other like coffee and donuts, or in Michael’s case, like dad jokes and eye rolls.

To the happy couple! May your love be as strong as Michael’s ability to fall asleep anywhere, anytime, and may your marriage be filled with more laughter than the time Michael tried to assemble IKEA furniture without reading the instructions. Cheers!

Joint Wedding Speech Example – Sentimental (Best Man and Maid of Honor)

Best Man (James): Good evening, everyone. I’m James, the best man, and standing beside me is the maid of honor, Emily. We’ve known Alex and Sarah since college, and we’re honored to share this special day with them.

Maid of Honor (Emily): When James and I were asked to give a joint speech, we immediately agreed. After all, who better to talk about the bride and groom than their best friends who’ve been there through it all?

James: I’ve known Alex since our freshman year when we were roommates. From day one, I knew he was someone special – kind, loyal, and always up for an adventure.

Emily: And I met Sarah in our first psychology class. Her infectious laugh and compassionate nature made us instant friends.

James: I remember the day Alex met Sarah. He came back to our dorm with this goofy grin on his face, talking about this amazing girl he’d just met.

Emily: Sarah called me that same night, gushing about the cute guy she’d bumped into at the campus coffee shop. Little did they know that their chance encounter would lead to this beautiful day.

James: Over the years, we’ve watched Alex and Sarah’s love grow. They’ve supported each other through tough exams, celebrated each other’s victories, and built a relationship based on trust, respect, and genuine friendship.

Emily: Sarah, you’ve been my rock through so many life events. Your strength and kindness never cease to amaze me. Alex, thank you for loving our girl so completely and for being such a wonderful addition to our friend group.

James: Alex, you’ve been more than a best friend to me – you’re the brother I never had. Sarah, thank you for making my best friend happier than I’ve ever seen him.

Emily: As we stand here today, we’re not just celebrating a wedding. We’re celebrating the union of two incredible individuals who make each other better every single day.

James: To Alex and Sarah, may your love continue to grow stronger with each passing year. May your home be filled with laughter, your hearts with love, and your lives with endless adventures.

Emily: May you always find comfort in each other’s arms, strength in each other’s support, and joy in each other’s smile.

James and Emily (together): To Alex and Sarah – our dear friends, and now, husband and wife. Here’s to a lifetime of love, laughter, and happiness. Cheers!

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Joint Wedding Speech Example – Humorous (Father of the Bride and Father of the Groom)

Father of the Bride (Tom): Good evening, everyone. I’m Tom, Jessica’s dad, and this distinguished gentleman beside me is Bob, Ryan’s father. We’ve been asked to give a joint speech tonight, which is fitting because we’ve been joining forces for years now to keep these two out of trouble.

Father of the Groom (Bob): That’s right, Tom. When our kids first started dating, we thought we’d finally get a break. Little did we know we were just trading one set of headaches for another.

Tom: I remember the day Jessica told us about Ryan. I was thrilled – not just because he made her happy, but because I finally had someone else to blame for the dents in my car.

Bob: And when Ryan introduced us to Jessica, I was ecstatic. I thought, “Finally, someone who might be able to teach my son that socks don’t belong on the coffee table.”

Tom: Over the years, we’ve watched Jessica and Ryan’s relationship grow. They’ve supported each other through thick and thin, good times and bad, and countless pizza deliveries.

Bob: Ryan has always been an, let’s say, “interesting” kid. When he was five, he wanted to be a dinosaur when he grew up. Jessica, I’m glad you’ve managed to slightly adjust his career goals.

Tom: And Jessica, well, she’s always been our little princess. Ryan, I hope you know that “princess” is just a fancy word for “someone who always gets their way.” Good luck with that, son.

Bob: But in all seriousness, we couldn’t be happier to see these two tying the knot. They complement each other perfectly, like peanut butter and jelly, or in their case, like Netflix and procrastination.

Tom: Jessica, sweetheart, you’ve made us proud in so many ways. Your kindness, your intelligence, and your ability to put up with Ryan’s jokes are truly impressive.

Bob: And Ryan, my boy, seeing the man you’ve become and the way you love Jessica fills my heart with joy. Your mother and I couldn’t be prouder.

Tom: As fathers, we’re not losing a daughter and a son today. We’re gaining…

Bob: …a whole lot of expenses. Seriously, do you two know how much grandkids cost these days?

Tom: To Jessica and Ryan, may your love be as strong as our new combined credit card debt, and may your marriage be filled with more laughter than the time Ryan tried to propose and forgot the ring.

Bob: May you always support each other’s dreams, have patience for each other’s quirks, and most importantly, may you always remember whose turn it is to do the dishes.

Tom and Bob (together): To the happy couple! May your love story be long, your arguments short, and may you always remember – we’re just a phone call away… unless you need money or babysitting. Cheers!

Final Thoughts: Toasting to Your Success

At the heart of every great wedding speech is genuine emotion and a desire to celebrate love. Whether you’re the wise-cracking best man, the sentimental maid of honor, or the parent trying not to ugly-cry through your entire speech, your sincerity will shine through. Don’t let the pressure get to you.

Even if you stumble over a few words or your voice cracks with emotion, in ten years, the only thing people will remember is how much love was in the room. Now go forth and speak your heart out! And if all else fails, just raise your glass and say, “To love, laughter, and happily ever after!” Cheers to you, cheers to the happy couple, and cheers to love in all its beautiful, messy, wonderful forms!

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